Ally. I loved reading your post. Quite helpful. My husband and I are renewing our vows, 25years at the Now Jade. I've had many challenges with Pilar. Even though it's our 2nd wedding, I too, am detail oriented and want all things to be done. I'm curious, did you get a package? I am leaning towards the highest package... but it was more for the menu. The a la carte items are outrageous! The cost for bows on chairs, etc... I have bags for my guest with hats, tee shirts, bath salts etc... did you ship your things prior? I wonder if I don't use the flowers from the package .... if they could do my centerpieces. As of now, we have chosen a 6:15pm ceremony at the pergola with the reception on the oceanside terrace... there's only 25 of us and I don't want to pay the extra person or room charges. Maybe we should re evaluate that given what you said about the buffet and the crowds. I am not worried about the beach with people, since most are off the beach and getting ready for dinner. I do worry about the buffet crowd. I will reach out to your florist... I want lots of flower but refuse to pay their prices. Who did you use for transportation? Amy