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Ok when I first joined I in the wings waiting for the day for the love of my life to say those magic words. Well he has and I am ecstatic. Waiting for the bling is fine with me, I have planning. AGGGGGHHHHHHH I hate it girl_werewolf.gifgirl_werewolf.gifgirl_werewolf.gif. I have all of the large items in place invites, dress, bm's dresses, save the date, location things like this. But I am hating the small stuff. Who do I invite? Who do I excludedo? Do I have an AHR or an egagement party for those not invited. Do i elope? Do I book an AI resort is this price too much?girl_werewolf.gifgirl_werewolf.gifgirl_werewolf.gif

 

I have not said anything to fh because he could care less. He is following my lead. I dont want him to plan because he will hurt feelings of those he does not invite. girl_werewolf.gifgirl_werewolf.gif 11 months is not long enough

 

just venting Thanks for reading (listening)

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I would first figure out your budget. That will probably dictate how many people you can invite. If you find your budget to be smaller, you could have a smaller guest list and invite the rest to a bbq or something low key after the wedding. Remember, many people probably won't be able to go but invites themselves aren't exactly cheap.

 

What's your overall vision? Small and intimate or grand

 

You've been on here since March 07 so I'm sure you have some ideas by now :)

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Catherine, we have all been through those parts of planning and its frustrating for sure.

What do you and your FI want?

Also I agree with Angela do your budget first and then you will know how to handle those situations.

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I keep going back and forth. I would love small and intimate but who do we not invite. I am closer to friends than familoy and he is famiy then friends. I say just family but then we have those friends who are like family and then family who are like friends. Who do you invite.?

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Catherine, invite those that when you look back you cannot imagine not having there.

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Don't rush yourself. Just take some days and daydream about how you want your wedding to look and feel. Don't feel like you have to make every decision all at once. Take your time.

 

It's so funny how we all hit the same engagement hurdles like clockwork! This is just another one and you'll make it through! Take a deep breath.

 

As far as deciding to have an engagement party or an AHR, I think you should do the AHR. If someone decides to throw you an engagment party, all the better! I don't think you should throw one for yourself. Just my humble opinion though! smile03.gif

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Im breathing again. Thank you ladies. I dont know where I would be right now if I didnt have all to bounce ideas off of and thoughts fights and dreams.

 

Thanks again. Taking time to daydream hehehe

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First off, congratulations on your engagement! The good thing is that you have plenty of time to think about what you want to do. I agree with the others... take a breath and relax and think about what your budget will be. Then you will be able to determine the venue. This is the fun part, have fun!!!

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I have all of the big details done. It is the small stuff that lead to the big stuff that I want. I know that money not be an option. Not that I am super rich but FH basically gives me what I want and knows how important this is to me. With that said I am very very thrifty so I know how to cut a corner. I pretty much know what the budget will be and can make it less if i can DECIDE WHO TO INVITE.

I have no family for real. My mom is gone dont talk to dad and only see cousins and aunts at christmas and a few birthdays. My family is my girl/boy friends. FH has a close knit family and he doesnt have a lot of friends.

Blame it on Scareface..

So do I invite my girls and guys and his family or my family and his family That is the problem.

 

Our package gives room for 30 people which can be done with know problem but who gets cut out.

 

CAN'T BREATHE. FEEEELLLLLLL FAIIIIIIINNNNNNNNNNT. I hear elope

 

I wish I were TammyB right now 6 people I wish it were that simple

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Catherine, given what you've said about your family, I'd invite your friends that you are close to and FH's family. Look at it this way- who would you invite to your son's birthday party? Would it be the same people?

 

(Listen to me- I'm in the same boat and I'm giving advice.... Hm...)

 

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