The good wife's guide...(from 1955)

[rodent]

If it makes you feel better, the article is fake. I had it emailed to me a few month ago so i looked it up on spoofs. it's not a real article from the 50s.

[jajajaja]

My grandma once told me that she is envious of the lives of her granddaughters. She said that she wished it would have been customary for the men to help with household duties like today. She still cooks every meal for my grandfather (although he's retired and she still "technically" works) because he doesn't know how to cook. Or do laundry or clean anything.

 

When they were younger, she took care of their 6 children and did all the household work. She also raised 150 sheep and took care of the 25 cows. Sure my grandpa had a full time job outside of the home, but my grandmother did it all (and still does!) He should have came home and rubbed her feet.

 

While I see Jamy's point that we should take care of EACH OTHER because you can't expect your man to treat you like a princess if you do nothing for him in return. But I think this article seriously missed one valid point. Housewives didn't just sit around all day....or at least the housewives that this article is writing about. They took care of the kids, cleaned, and cooked. I'm sorry but that's a full time job. I barely have time to do any cooking or cleaning after I return home. I think it's complete crap to expect a wife to take care of all the housely duties and THEN dote on the man after he returns home. When can she rest?

 

I'm so thankful my FI views things as 50/50. We take turns cleaning the bathroom and cooking. It's a wonderful balance considering we both have full time jobs. I'm glad I didn't live back in those days.

[starchild]

Yep, a few generations ago there was no balance. Staying home with the kids is a full time job, you're right. I hope I didn't sound like I think it's easy, sorry if I did.

 

I guess I don't think of it like I have to dote on him, I want to. And he doesn't expect me to and is very gracious, that is an important component. Maybe if I have kids and stay home I won't be so into him, but I hope I never lose this feeling. 50/50 is the best, works for us too )

[starchild]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Morgan If it makes you feel better, the article is fake. I had it emailed to me a few month ago so i looked it up on spoofs. it's not a real article from the 50s.

Haha..now that's funny! I still feel the same

[IrieBride08]

Jamy, I do agree with your points and in my heart and hope to cater to my man once I'm his wife. (With the exception of "his topics of conversation being more important than mine" and "you have no right to question him".)

 

But, I have to say that for now, I am SOOOOO spoiled! If we're both all curled up and comfortable on the couch and I ask him to bring me a cup of water, he will get up and bring it to me. I think this sweet part of him is a large reason why I love him so much, because he's such a big, tough guy (He's such a caveman!) who is willing to cater to me in countless ways.

 

We tease each other because I rarely cook for him, (We don't live together yet.) but he cooks for me all the time. I do plan to cook once we're married! I think it would blow his mind if I started being "more domestic". Teehee!!

[jajajaja]

No Jamy I didn't mean to make it sound like YOU made it sound easy. The article did but since Morgan proved it was a spoof then I guess there is not need to argue with a silly article. haha.

 

But even though it's not a REAL article, that thought process did exist in the '50s. That's just more of an exaggerated version.

[starchild]

Quote:

Originally Posted by IrieBride08 Jamy, I do agree with your points and in my heart and hope to cater to my man once I'm his wife. (With the exception of "his topics of conversation being more important than mine" and "you have no right to question him".) But, I have to say that for now, I am SOOOOO spoiled! If we're both all curled up and comfortable on the couch and I ask him to bring me a cup of water, he will get up and bring it to me. I think this sweet part of him is a large reason why I love him so much, because he's such a big, tough guy (He's such a caveman!) who is willing to cater to me in countless ways. We tease each other because I rarely cook for him, (We don't live together yet.) but he cooks for me all the time. I do plan to cook once we're married! I think it would blow his mind if I started being "more domestic". Teehee!!

You mean we have the right to question them? lol j/k Yeah that is ridiculous! There's nothing wrong with him doing those nice things for you! He sounds like a sweetheart )

[jajajaja]

Quote:

Originally Posted by IrieBride08 But, I have to say that for now, I am SOOOOO spoiled! If we're both all curled up and comfortable on the couch and I ask him to bring me a cup of water, he will get up and bring it to me.

My FI does stuff like this for me all the time too. He so thoughtful and it makes me feel like a brat. I make up for it though.

[starchild]

Quote:

Originally Posted by LC_Rachel No Jamy I didn't mean to make it sound like YOU made it sound easy. The article did but since Morgan proved it was a spoof then I guess there is not need to argue with a silly article. haha. But even though it's not a REAL article, that thought process did exist in the '50s. That's just more of an exaggerated version.

I know, I wanted to clarify just in case someone else thought so. But you're right, the thought process was there in the 50s.