hello bridetobe, In my experience some hotels (all inclusive offer us a lot of benefits if 75% of your total guest stay with them). European hotels they will charge you the menu of the banquet per person so they dont care where the relatives are staying. If you choose a location (this option for me was expesier) also you dont care where the people is staying but some times you need to consider the transportation of all your guest to the place and back. Hope this help you. COngrats!!! Ale