mlrose61

Thanks! My fiancee is actually finishing up his graduate degree and this is really the only time that is good for him. We totally understand that being is school is challenging and time consuming, but I think it is a poor excuse to miss a family member's wedding expecially when is is 9 months away! It seems like asking people's preferences in not really customary and causes a lot of headaches for the bride and groom. I appreciate hearing your experience. Hopefully things will get resolved with his sisters, but now we just need to focus on all the positive things about our DW!

My fiancee and I are planning our DW at the NOW Sapphire Cancun Resort for April 11, 2013. We are so excited and so are MOST of our friends and family. We have a very small guest list and have been open with everyone since our engagement last June that we would have a DW. We also let people know it would be sometime in April '13 since December. We decided to go w/ email Save the Dates because we had a short period of time to book the group rates once the prices came out to our travel agent. Our guests had 1.5 weeks to depost 50 dollars to hold a spot w/ the group rate if they chose to go that route. Everyone responded immediately and were really excited about it, except we heard nothing from my fiancee's two sisters. When we called them, they both responded that they feel that should have been consulted about the date we chose because they might be busy w/ finals (they are both in graduate school) and they think the way we did our Save the Dates was very rude and inconsiderate. I say, even if we did "consult them" I would never reset our wedding date because they might be "busy with school". Needless to say, this has caused a lot of drama and I feel that we have done everything according to etiquette. Has anyone else had this issue w/ family? Is it proper etiquette to consult guests about the wedding date? I would love to hear any advice on how to handle this type of "wedding drama".