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Just stoppin by to say Hello!!!! Just celebrated 2 years

Originally Posted by mikeiram 

 

I am 32 with no kids. My FI is 28 with a son who is 4. I grew up with two stepmothers as a child and another one as an adult. The last thing I wanted was to marry a man with a kid. I realize God knows what is best for you. I am able to use what I went through as a child to be a better stepmother to him. It is important to us to make sure he is a part of the wedding. He has decided that the two of us will have our first dance to Gangam Style.

I totally agree I always avoided relationships with guys with kids but low and behold my husband got in the door lol

Sent a message for the lip balms

Hi Negritadr! Welcome and congrats!

Well well well Teamboyd2012 I hope you know how to pray!  We have similar situation only the ages are different.  I'm serious about the prayer but I sometimes wonder if I would have came in my SK lives when they were a little younger if that would have made it better.  I will say this I've been in the picture for going on 8 years now the oldest is 18(girl) and we have the best relationship of them all.  The 16 and 13 year old both boys are in there teenage phase of life so those are the issues I'm dealing with.  The youngest is 7(boy), their mother was pregnant when we first met, they all have the same mother, I don't have any relationship with him.  I have grown a lot, some things don't bother me the same as they use to.  I have set boundaries for myself and the dynamics of our situation.  I will not be unhappy, stressed, or disrespected PERIOD, when those things come into play we all have a problem.  So what I do is try my best and do what I can to not have any of those emotions come into play.  It probably sounds easier said than done and it may not come over night but have faith and love and you'll be fine.

Hello! Welcome and Congrats!!!

$25 total for 3 bags of shells and 3 sets of napkins(150) and shipping.  I have a PayPal account so if you're still interested I can send you my info to make the payment.

I'll check today at the post office and let you know

I have 30 pages of the casual style pages that did not get used at my AHR for sale.  PM me if interested!

I'm positive I have 4 but I might have another one, 5 total.  I need to look through all my stuff that was packed up at the end of the night.

I'll send you a pm so we can discuss

These were special made from an Etsy seller.  They're great for recognizing parents, grand parents, children, or just anyone special.

Send me a message if you want anything, each item below $5

Send me a message if your interested in anything if your close enough we can meet halfway instead having to pay shipping

Just realized you can't see that bag of shells good but it's just a smaller bag of shells

Got these from Etsy special order never got used I have 2 more that are out of the plastic but wasn't worn

Thanks Abbie I'll look for it

Hello! Hope all is well with everyone I need some help, hopefully I don't get in trouble for posting this here.  I seen on the site a sand ceremony that included like several people, DH has 4 kids so I need that wording for our reception but I can't find it now.  Have any of you used it or know where I can find it, it's sooooo many threads under sand ceremony.

Coconoir I'm happy things have gotten better for you all!!! Futuremrstgun said it best....say some prayers!!! I just said to myself I guess it had to be one or two people at odds with our marriage, just enough to keep me on my knees praying.  I'm also very thankful that it's just one or two, sometimes I just revel in the fact that it could be so much worse but it's not.  I've heard of some and even know of some straight horror stories, my situation is what it is and more than anything I'm thankful it's not worse.   

Aaawww Sarah TD don't worry they'll figure it out and see for themselves hopefully sooner than later.  We had the same situation and we are planning a AHR for August and to be honest the kids may not even come but the show must go on.  I look at it as it's not my fault that people want to be difficult and cause confusion I can only try and do but so much.  Don't worry maintain you happiness and peace, good luck with everything.

I agree and as I stated before when things become more of a reality some people have a hard time dealing with it.  I have had a few people change their view of our relationship now that it's serious, I'm like what did you think or why are you so shocked but I guess when the reality sets in or things become official people feel different.  I guess what happens is whatever people have their hopes set on when it doesn't happen that way they have a hard time dealing, which is understandable but life goes on.  Yes, time is really the only healer and way he will see the good in the situation and it's not what he may be painting in his head.  Both father and mother could talk to him and provide some reassurance, that may help some.  I'm sure it'll get better.

Hopefully it will get better Bailey, I don't know about you guys but I found been a teenager a very difficult time in my life so I try to sympathize (sp) with teenagers.  I don't mean tolerate disrespect or foolishness but it can be a confusing time in life especially when other major events beyond focusing on being a teenager is going on around you.  So again hopefully it'll get better as I stated DH 15y/o son may be having some issues, it hasn't come to me directly and I hope it doesn't.

Ladies the wedding was beautiful I couldn't have changed one thing, I know what brides mean by that now lol.  I'm happy things got addressed because again bottom line is people have to get over it.  She may just needed the talk or some reassurance you know how us females are.  So it's good she's going to be a BM and I hope everything goes just how you want it!!!

Funny!!! The reality of things does send another message to people.  Me and FI planned to get married in 45 days since we didn't want to put it off any longer after calling it off 18 months ago.  So my shower was 3/27 and I invited his 17y/o she came but had a hard time while there I guess cause she realized it's real.  She made it through and she even came to St. Kitts to the wedding and had a good time.  Now that we are back his 15y/o son is having fit about things but I'm not getting into it and I'm like guess if 1 out of the 4 is mad I'll take that.  Bottom line is she may be having a hard time cause now yes you will be married soon and it's a whole different ball game but she'll learn to live with it.  I figure like we will be married forever so the sooner people get over there issue and deal with it the better off the'll be cause forever could be a long time.  Don't stress she'll come around hopefully and things will be fine.

Originally Posted by PurpleUnicorn 

i am only wondering if guests know they have to pay??   what if they think "oh cool, its a shower, so the meals are covered  by the host".  that is the only thing i would worry about.  i wonder if there is some way to let them know without being tacky about it. like let them know that buying a meal is optional since they are paying...

The guest knew that they had to pay and that it was optional a few guest came and didn't eat and it was cool.  Over all I had a wonderful time and everything turned out beautiful I think I was stressing for no reason looking back now.  Since everything turned out so great I cant say that I would want anything different.  I'll try to post some pics!                                                                                                                                                                                  

Ellabaja1983 I feel you...When me and FI met 6 years ago and I met the kids and seen how things went with them, me being me I wanted to fix this and do that and all in all now I feel like it wasn't necessary.  So me and FI took a year break and we are back and getting married next week my interaction with the kids since being back has been different this time.  I told myself and him and will tell anybody else I'm not about to stress myself out.  I love him and the kids but bottom line I'm not their mother and it's things that I would have liked, would like, and will want but I understand and accept that I'm not their mother so certain things just won't be period.  My new perspective is these 3 rules...1. we will respect each other 2. If FI/kids want something and he/they ask and I can do it I will 3. I will make sure when I'm around they are feed and safe.  I think I stressed myself out last time with some things that pertained to them and I'm not gonna do it again.  I think whatever works for people that's what they should do.  My mother is acting ugly right now at this happy time in my life but it made me think to myself maybe that's why step-mother's, God mothers, and other mother figures come in handy.  I hope things get better and maybe with some time they will...stay strong. 

Originally Posted by kim0806 

 

I know that what your hosts are doing isn't considered proper etiquette, but really people do things so many different ways now- is there really a right or wrong?  I think that as long as you are a genuine person and your shower guests know that you truly appreciate their being there to support you and their generosity....well then, they shouldn't mind paying for a meal.  Would you do the same for them?  If the answer is 'absolutely', then hopefully they feel the same. 

Hope you have a great time with lots of great ladies! 

Thanks and your so right these days people do all different type of things that aren't proper etiquette and things change which is why.  I'm over it and too excited to worry anymore my shower is this coming Sunday and I know it's going to be great.  I know my guest will enjoy themselves and love the giveaways my hosts have gotten for them.