monicaswave

Sunbride,

I am so sorry you feel very dissapointed with some of your friends and family. If it makes you feel any better I have gone through the same situation here. There are two important things I have learned from my wedding planning experience:

1) Some people that you really really from the bottom of your heart expected to support you on such a special time of your life will not

2) Other people that you are not that close with and did not expect to be there will

I learned this the hard way so from now on I just focus on the second lesson.

I became really really really dissapointed with two of my BMs too. One is my Maid of Honor who also happens to be my sister and my very best friend. Both girls happen to be in relationships with guys that completly consume not only their entire time but also existance. It is really sad because any time I needed their help for something they were always "busy." I wasn't going to be begging them for help so I just gave up with them and stopped asking. My best friend was even 2 hrs late to my bridal shower because she was having "issues" with the boyfriend before the party. And that's because she had promised my mom she would be there early to help decorate too.

I am just grateful that I have other wonderful friends that realized my BMs were completly ignoring me and stepped up to the plate and helped me out with small things.

In a way I'm glad that this wedding has helped me realize who really cares about me or not. It's a true test of friendship and I'm glad I am realizing this so I don't spend more time with people that are not worth it.

I love, love, love your pictures. The blue color for your BMs dresses is gorgeous and I love the contrast with the flowers. I also love your hair!!! Did you give the hair stylist pictures of how you wanted your hair to look? If you have them can you send them to me please?

You were a lovely bride!

I am so sorry you are going through all that drama.

Being that it's your FIL that are making the most fuss about the resort does suck. Since it's their son getting married they should be more willing to do whatever necessary to have the day go as smooth as possible.

In my opinion, I think the resort industry is the biggest one to blame here. I think the 80% or 90% of "guest must stay policy" that many of the resorts implement is very unreasonable. It really sucks to put brides in a position where they are basically begging their guests to stay at the same resort as the wedding. What makes it even more difficult is when you have to force people to stay at the same resort for the same number of nights. People like to have flexibility especially b/c you can not control the reasons why people may not be able to stay the required nights.

I also understand that it would be so much more fun to have everyone at the same resort this way you can do activities together, but some people like to have a little more privacy, especially since after all, they will be on vacation too. To other guests it's a money issue. Some guests will look for the most affordable travel. Going to a destination wedding can be expensive and when people pay that much money for something I think they also expect options.

OMG I love them! I had seen those on etsy too not long ago. I really really really wanted to get them for BMs too but I was afraid I'd break them in my luggage. How are you carrying them? Or are you giving it to them early?

they look really good. it's amazing you didn't pay a million dollards to have those done. your friend did awesome!

Guys,

I found this web page with tons of great pictures for centerpiece ideas. For those of you getting married in Hawaii it looks like that's where they are from so you might be able to contact them to do your flowers.

I hope this helps!

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OMG girl! Everything looks amazing. I loved looking through your pictures. Your wedding is going to turn out absolutely perfect!

I really wish I was half as organized and prepared as you.

One quick question....do you have a copy of what you wrote for the polaroid guestbook? I am also doing the polaroid guestbook and would love to get some idea of how to write the instructions.

Thanks!

Best of luck with everything.

THat's a fantastic idea! The mojitos will be a perfect touch!!!!

Ladies!

Thank you so much for your input.

I thought about the Jr. Bridesmaid title but I held back for one reason.

I really want to include her in the wedding but I'm hesitant to give her a Jr. BM title because I have other cousins that I'm a bit closer to (mainly just because we are closer in age) and I don't want them to feel left out. It might be weird if I pick my 9 yr old cousin as a Jr. BM but not my 15 or 18 yr old cousins too.

I think Bride Helper might work better for my situation.

Thanks for the link!

Ladies,

My little cousin who is 9 yrs old really wanted to be a part of my wedding. I am so excited to have her help out but I think she may be too old to be a flower girl so I was going to have her help with passing out parasols and programs during the ceremony. I want to include her name in the program as well so I would like to give her a title but I don't know what to call her.

She is too old to be a flower girl and too young for a Jr. Bridesmaids. Any suggestions?

Am I too late?....I think I found the ribbon. Try this:

Personalized Satin Dots Ribbon, Favors Packaging, Holiday Ribbon

OMG! That would be so incredibley devastating. I would so cry.

I just saw the video again and noticed the officiant conducting ceremony fell too! wow!

Oh you are so right....it's super cute!

Thank you so much Abby for all the great pictures. I am not getting married there but I will be going for my honeymoon so I have some sort of interest in the place. My should be there around Nov 25th of this year. I hope it's operational by then.

The magnets look amazing. Lovely picture!

Everything looks fantastic!

They are both beautiful but I prefer 2nd one!

Oh man! Sorry to hear that! I hope you get it fixed. I'm sure you can take it to a seamstress and see if there is anythign that can be done.

I did chuckled at the title though.