grassali

I am so how relieved to read I am not the only person who is having a hard time with our destination wedding. Yes it's my dream to have a destination wedding but I didn't just do it for my own benifit. Both my FI and I are not from Vancouver, none of his family member live in town (i mean the closest one is 5-hours on plane), and I have a very small family (my mother and my older brother) never really close with my other relatives. My mother doesn't even live in North America. The only family member that lives near Vancouver is my brother. So both my FI and I think it's reasonable to just have destination wedding because even if we have it here all of our family members will have to travel except one. And unless you are an outdoor person, Vancouver is the worst place to visit. The city is not that interesting and very expensive. As soon as we told people we are having destination wedding, all the negative comments come out, everyone thinks that we should our wedding in the city each one of them lives, to avoid any inconvience for each one of them, but there is really no point of listen to what we actually want. Yeah, my FI and I are paying the entire wedding ourselves but we should do it in a way everyone can get a free meal out of us but not cost them a single penny. That's essentially what I have been told all along. And of course, there is tones of "you are the most selfish person ever, or you should pay for our plane tickets, or you should know no one will go to your wedding" and such kind of suggestions. What I found most unbelievable at the end, my own brother who is making close 6 figure income was telling me "you are not my priority! there is never extra money to spend on you." "You should feel sorry coz you can't pay for me and my gf to go to your wedding". I felt really sad for a while and now I am just so angry. I know there is really no point of complainning about this whole thing, but I just really need a bit of support.