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  1. Thank you so much ladies! I've never felt more relief than ever! (Seriously... Venting and getting MATURE feedback definitely helps! We have decided to not re-invite her. Josie, you had a really good about the subject being brought up after a few drinks. That's happened in the past with her, and I definitely do not want anybody crying into their cocktails about any kind of drama! Kathy, that's what my FI is convinced it's all about-- jealousy. He and I started dating the same time she and her boyfriend started dating. I moved in with him before she moved in with hers, and she's always been so negative about us moving 'so fast'. Brenda&Jeff-- I hope everything works out for you as well! It's not the easiest decision to make, but in hindsight, probably the best.
  2. I have five tattoos, but this one is my favorite It's on my right-side rib panel. I don't have a particular story behind this bird, other than I had my tattoo guy draw it up for me and I loved it the moment I saw it on paper. After the wedding, I'm adding more to it and plan to turn into an entire piece down my side. The other tattoos I have are... Alibata (ancient Filipino script) for soul on my back My son's initials on my right wrist A girly skull on the lower left side of my back (my sister and I got matching skulls The above hummingbird And three small stars behind the left ear for me, my mom and my sister. FI has two tribal shoulder caps, an full sleeve on his left arm and "Forgive Me Father" across his collarbone. After the wedding, we are also getting "His" and "Hers" tattooed on the inside of our ring fingers (his on mine, hers on his, of course I can't wait for him to roll up his sleeves on our wedding day and let those tattoos peek through his super conservative suit
  3. Hey Angela! I've had my nostril pierced for about 3 years now and I loveee it. It did hurt going in but only for a few seconds. It healed fairly quickly-- three weeks, I think. I work in a super-conservative office, so when I have to go to work, I change it out to a non-studded nose stud (I found a nose stud I wasn't completely in-love with, clipped off the end with the stud and nestled the post into the piercing site. It stays in place all day and is practically invisible!)
  4. OMG. We must be related. It sounds like something my mother would bitch at me about-- ESPECIALLY in the shower. LOL. No, you're not overreacting at all. And honestly, like many of the other ladies have said, you're making a wise decision by NOT going in debt as a newly wed!
  5. I had to deal with the same situation earlier this morning! My fiance found out that one of our guests had invited two other people to OUR wedding! Unfortunately, we only live about an hour and a half away from the wedding site, so it's a bit easier for those uninvited guests to make it through. Mehhh. Anyway, I know you don't want to look like a bitch and tell people no. But it does sort of put a damper on the festivities, knowing that people that YOU personally didn't invite are there, lurking in the background. Maybe you and your FI can personally call these people who are inviting others and put on a cap on it. Or you can use this to your advantage and flaunt your newly acquired bling around the ex-gf.......
  6. I didn't know where else to post this, but here goes! This is a little bit on the long and drawn-out side but I swear, it's a dilemma that I simply can't resolve! My 'best friend" and I have been tighter-than-tight for about four years now. She was the one who introduced me to my FI and she was the first one my FI called when he was was going to pop the question. He also popped that question on her birthday, so there was no doubt in my mind when I asked-- well, moreso told-- her she that she was going to be my MOH. So during the beginning stages of the wedding planning shebang, she became extremely busy with her own life, as she was in the midst of buying her first house. Of course something as big as that would detract her from her MOH-ly duties, but that was fine by me since I never wanted to put too much on her plate to begin with. However, I noticed that she would never ask about the wedding: how it was going, if there was anything I needed her to do, what dress I'd like her to wear, etc. etc. I brushed it off as petty stuff, put on my big-girl face, and carried on, even helping her look for her new abode. In November, two months after the engagement, I mentioned to her that I wanted to have possibly have a small party at my house to celebrate my birthday and our engagement (side note, I love to celebrate everything lol). She asked me "Aren't you getting enough attention as it is with this wedding? Do you really need to throw an engagement party?". I was taken aback. Really? Did you just say that? I explained to her that it wasn't for attention, it was to celebrate how exciting everything was; to which she replied "ok, Bridezilla". For some reason, that really struck a nerve with me. I wasn't trying to be selfish and bask in a bridal spotlight! I simply wanted to gather a few of our family and close friends and tell them, oh hey, by the way, we're engaged-- yay! However, her comment left me very uncomfortable and a bit annoyed-- so much so, I completely stopped talking about anything wedding-related to her (btw-- she attended the party. For all of one hour before running off to someone elses' birthday party.) So anyway, fast forward. About a month and half ago, she told she had cheated on her boyfriend. It had absolutely nothing to do with our friendship, but for some reason, it struck another nerve in me for all the obvious reasons. Now, usually, I sugarcoat a lot of things when it comes to her and I tend to take her side, even if for the wrong reasons but this time around, I couldn't help but give her a little piece of my mind. In a calm, collected and adult manner of course. I thought that we could talk about anything as two grown adults that had been friends for awhile so I expected her to receive the opinion well. But no-- she did a COMPLETE 180! She accused me of judging her and acting like I knew everything about her and her relationship. I became a little angry at her backlash, but realized that I might have overstepped my boundaries as a friend. I tried to explain what I was trying to say but she wasn't having any of it and continued on her barrage of accusations. I quickly tried to diffuse the stiuation and told her that we would talk about later. So a day goes by and she hasn't contacted me. A week goes by and I'm still unsure of how to feel. Should I stand my ground to get my point across or should I cave in and apologize? I decide to stand my ground because it just all really left a bad taste in my mouth. Two weeks go by, and she still has not contacted me. At this point, I felt like I should let her decide whether she wants to come to me and talk about it. Then another week goes by... Nada. I finally came to the decision that she would no longer be my MOH, a bridesmaid, or even a guest at our wedding. Sad as it was, but I was hurt and angry that, among other reasons-- a) she accused me of judging her and not being mature enough to handle a difference of opinion. About a week ago, she starts leaving me civil little comments on Facebook and sending me random text messages. We start talking little by little, and she asks how the wedding is going and sends me ideas and links to wedding stuff-- you know, stuff she could have done back when. Neither of us have uttered a word about what transpired weeks earlier. In some ways, I'm relieved that we're at least somewhat talking but at the same time, I'm feeling guilty as hell that I've retracted her spot in my wedding. So now, we're about three weeks to the big day and I'm not even sure if she's put the shoe on the other foot and thought about what's going through my head. Sure, I feel like crap because she was after all, my best friend. At the same time, neither my FI and I want any sort of drama on one of the most important days of our lives. And honestly, after all that happened, the FI doesn't care too much for her presence either. Deep down inside, I would like her to be there but I already know we're not going to be as close as we used to be. What would you do in a situation like this? It just all seems like high school all over again! (BTW, since it's a very small ceremony, we decided to forgo the tradition of having a wedding party, so it sort of worked out anyway).
  7. ...has some awesome summer goodies that are great for favors/gifts! FH and I were thinking of buying boogie boards as favors for our guests--and they're only $5 each!
  8. Like your fiance, mine couldn't see why I was willing to pay so much for pictures alone. But once I explained to him how much it meant to me to have great pictures, he finally went along with it Since our DW is only about two hours away, I put an ad out on CraigsList in that area, looking for a photog. I stated clearly what I wanted and how much I was willing to pay, and explained that we were on a budget. I got a ton of responses; some great, some not so great. After about two and a half weeks, I finally got the response I was looking for: a photog who was just my style, had an awesome portfolio and was willing to work within in my budget! Anyway, I booked her for 3 hours and she quoted me for less than $200, including hi-res copies of the pictures on CD
  9. We have booked our reception dinner at this awesome little restaurant by the ocean and absolutely love it. The food is delicious and it isn't superrr expensive either; the average is about $20 a plate. My mom has offered to pay for the dinner, so long as it did not exceed $500. We were both uncomfortable with that because we were determined to pay for everything ourselves, but she insisted. So we figured we would stay well under that budget with our 18 guests, plus gratuity. Should anything exceed $500, my fiance and I would pay for it. So, the group of people we invited are our most favorite people in the world-- they also happen to be the biggest drinkers in the world. LOL. We want them to have a good time, but we don't want to pay out the butt for them to marinate in alcohol either. We figured that we would limit FOUR alcoholic beverages (beer, wine, mixed drinks, etc) per person and anything after that, they would have to pay on their own. My fiance liked this idea, and I know our friends won't mind paying for their own drinks, but a few friends (that weren't invited) have said that it's sort of tacky. I'm sort of stuck in the middle. I see where my fiance is coming from, but I also see how it could be tacky. Any advice?? And how would I tell guests what the plan of action was?
  10. i've changed my mind so many times, but i think i'm set on a nice mustard yellow and a light aqua/tiffany blue. it looks wayy prettier than it sounds, i promise (my reception shoes are mustard yellow
  11. Hi everyone! I'm a former October 2010 bride that is now a July 2009 bride! My FI popped the question on September 15, 2008 after two months of dating. Everyone thought we'd rushed into it, but we knew better. Hey, when you know, you know. So we started planning for a nice country wedding for October 10, 2010 (10.10.10--lucky number 10s After giving it a month's worth of thinking, we decided it was too far out and changed the date to his birthday--July 31, 2009-- and the plans to a nice beach wedding at sunset. We have about two months to the wedding and I procrastinated so I'm justttt now starting to get into the planning. Thank goodness we're only inviting less than 15 people to the nuptials so it's not a whole lot of planning. We only have a few more things left to do and I'm sure, before I know it, it'll be the big day. Yayy!
  12. Thanks everyone! Jenamie-- NC was our second choice! Nags Head to be exact but he didn't want to deal with trouble of making our families and friends drive four hours just for a day. I'm sure yours will be beautiiiiful. Congrats!
  13. Hi there! My name is Angie soon-to-be Anderson The Mr. and I are tying the knot on July 31st in Virginia Beach, Virginia and we're excited as can be. I'm glad to have found a site like this; it's been very helpful the last few months I've been lurking around on it I figured today would be the day I finally say hi sooo HI! Hope to see you gorgeous ladies around these boards
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