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  1. So we decided to get legally married in the states to avoid having to do all the bloodwork/xray/ceremony in spanish etc etc. We decided awhile back to just do it very discreetly because we want our beach ceremony when were in front of our guests to really feel like that is when we are officially married, even though legally we will have already done it in the states. We even decided that we were just going to have one or two friends come as witnesses and thats it and not even really celebrate it...just making it like getting the legal part done and saving the good stuff for Mexico. WELL... FI's parents live in Vegas as well, and over the weekend they told us they wanted to do a little party for us at this very small restaurant b.c they are friends with the owner and we would do a small cake etc. At first I was like okay, that sounds good, only because i didn't want to spoil the moment and we were at the restaurant in front of the owner. Thinking about it later, it didn't feel right to go back on what we had originally planned on since my family (dad, mom, sister) won't be there. I mentioned it to my sister (she is older, 42) and she was very upset about it and said she would be hurt if that happened and she knew my dad and mom would be equally upset. Both sets of parents actually both mentioned when we first told them that we were going to get legally married here, kind of had the feeling of "so were spending ALL this money and comign ALL this way, for you guys to not actually be legally married there..." they basically felt we were just going down to party...eventually both sets warmed up to the idea and felt it was a better choice. NOW, FI's mom is "very upset" as my FI told her today that we didnt feel right doing it since my family wouldn't be there, and my FI, being his usual vague self when it comes to something like this, just said she didnt say much but that she was very upset, and from what i gathered, pissed as well. I am wondering if I am just flat out wrong about this? I am my parents only child, and this is extremely special to them, obviously every parent is, but FI has a brother and sister as well and they will get to witness their marriages as well. I can't just lie to my parents that we never did it, and I can't just blow it off and not mention it becasue someone will end up slipping, and then every still get hurt. Any thoughts?!
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