Advice, please... FMIL wants to go dress shopping
Posted 16 January 2008 - 08:13 PM
I would tell her that you have done alot of research online (which you have, and your FH has backed you up), and that you are going to be going with your MOH and / or bridesmaids.
I really like the idea of adding on "but I could really use your help with xyz" like Danielle said. It will lessen the blow, LOL, and she'll still feel involved.
Posted 16 January 2008 - 08:31 PM
Posted 16 January 2008 - 10:37 PM
I'm usually a big fan of killing with kindness.
Posted 16 January 2008 - 11:51 PM
Posted 17 January 2008 - 01:47 PM
Don't feel bad...this is totally understandable and its about YOUR DAY!
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Posted 17 January 2008 - 02:57 PM
| Originally Posted by MikkiStreak |
Or, tell her you already have something picked out, but you'd like to take her to the final fitting so she can see the dress before FI and other guests.... That might do the trick because it'd help her feel "included", but doesn't give her decision-making authority or put as much pressure on you....
I would have the opposite problem with my FMIL. She would want to go and would love absolutely everything I tried on. lol.
Posted 17 January 2008 - 03:34 PM
Posted 17 January 2008 - 03:44 PM
Sorry, I don't have much advice besides just letting her come but try on the dresses YOU like. And if you can bring a couple other people, friends, BMs to back you up.
Posted 17 January 2008 - 03:47 PM
| Originally Posted by Chiquita |
You could say something like, "thanks so much for offering to come, but my bridesmaids and I are going to go together" or something to that effect. Then try to get her to help with something else... if you want!
Posted 17 January 2008 - 03:52 PM
| Originally Posted by Claire |
Why don't you take control of the situation, call MIL and ask her to come shopping with you. Take the afternoon and have a nice day with her. Tell her you are ONLY LOOKING - definitely not buying yet. Try on the dresses that you like, the dresses that she likes and just smile at everything she says. Don't let it bug you! (You will have the final say, even if she doesn't know it!)
You can remember if you see something you like. Take a notebook and write down what you like and if she insists that she likes something better, smile sweetly and write that down too. That will make her feel important, (but you are not committing to it and it won't hurt you to fake it). You have to "think about it". That's how you can make her happy and you too.
If she asks you later if you have made up your mind, "no, still thinking about it". Then go with whoever you want, wherever you want and buy what you want.
Plus imagine how much it would mean to her to have this afternoon with you. Assuming that the day won't be horribly uncomfortable (maybe bring your MOH of someone else along to make it easier) it's a great compromise. Who knows you may actually find something you like!
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