sending out invitations...how early?

[happygilmore]

I have a question about STD cards and invitations. We have about 40-50 people we want to invite to our DW but at the same time want people to know we are engaged and getting married and when we get back from the DW we are having a reception. I am trying to think of how you tactually do that. What I have thought is send out a STD card with "we are getting married in Mexico on such a such date with a VT Reception when we get back - more information to come!" and then send out invitations with specific details to those we want to come to the DW and general reception invitiations to those we'd want to have come to the reception. I don't know if I am just making this harder than it needs to be but at the same time I don't want to hurt feelings by having to tell someone we hadn't planned on them coming and we can't afford it.

[Rache1124]

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Originally Posted by Leia78 I guess i sent out my stuff a bit early! My wedding is at the end of Oct., sent out the STDs in Nov., invitations in Jan. w/ an RSVP date of March.

I did something similar...except we skipped the STDs altogether (saved time and money...with a much smaller guest list than a traditional wedding, most of our friends and family knew what we were planning anyway...so the save the dates just seemed kind of pointless). We were engaged in November, we finalized wedding plans by first week in January, I sent out invitations and travel information 2nd week of January, with a reply by date end of March, and wedding will be July 31st. Maybe a little early, but I read invites/information should be sent out earlier than normal...5-6 months ahead of time at least. I wasn't sure exactly about RSVP date, but figured by then most people would know, and I will be anxious to start finalizing things, OOT bags, and all those other fun details!!!

[cessyboston]

Love this thread so helpful.....Donnie asked me to go search this question....

 

So my save the dates went out in December

We are thinking May-June for the invites and June-July for the rsvp date

So that gives us about 4 months i think its such a personal descision....and i need to shop

[Kristy!]

FI and I decided to skip STDs and just send out the invitations really early. We're not sure exactly when, but it'll probably be no later than 10 months in advance. Also (and you guys are going to think I'm crazy) I'm not using a TA. I'm doing it all that on my own (I love this kind of stuff), so I want to make sure everything is set way ahead of time. Plus we're going the villa route and those need to be reserved really far in advance. I hope this makes sense!

[Sandra E.]

Just a couple of weeks than normal, which will be about 10 weeks before the wedding.