Who is paying for what?
Posted 15 January 2008 - 01:29 PM
IT is not that I expect them to pay! I do however expect them to try to help, either in asking questions about it or calling to see how plannning is going!
Posted 15 January 2008 - 10:27 PM
I've been otherwise financially independent and have not relied on my parents for anything else home, car, or living related, and I've thrown them many parties (60th birthdays, anniversary parties, etc.) with my own money, so I think it is just a tradition that some people continue to follow. By choosing a destination wedding, I've cut our guestlist in half of what my sister had, so I'm definitely being considerate and not taking advantage! I'm aiming for 1/2 the budget they offered, just because I think it is ridiculous otherwise.
Posted 15 January 2008 - 10:40 PM
Posted 15 January 2008 - 10:47 PM
In reading over this thread it does kind of seem that those who paid for it 100% are really proud (which is great) but it also seems that they are upset that other people didn't have to. Well that's how it reads anyways, sorry for being frank.
And I'll say this again, some people who paid for the wedding themselves accepted large cash bonuses afterwards so what is the difference, really? You're still adults taking money from parents, you know?
I don't think most people expect, or demand, someone to pay for their wedding but if it's something that has been custom from their experience, in their life, is it that unreasonable that they would suggest it?
Some people never suggest it and it gets offered to them (like me). So I accepted the money in advance of the wedding instead of cashing the check afterward. Different strokes and they're all good )
Posted 15 January 2008 - 11:02 PM
Posted 16 January 2008 - 01:08 AM
| Originally Posted by starchild |
Don't anyone go feeling guilty because you have people in your life that want to help!
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Posted 16 January 2008 - 01:27 AM
I had a conversation with my FMI and she told me she felt that the wedding planning belonged to the bride and bride's family but she wanted to be part of it. I felt that she felt akward in bringing up the subject.
We're paying for our elopement and reception entirely. Both my and Fi's parents aren't able to help out financially so I'm asking both sides to help with little things.
Posted 16 January 2008 - 01:55 AM
My mom is helping us out A LOT because my dad isn't paying for anything. Not because he can't afford it...whole 'nother story involving a crazy step-mom.
FI's brother is getting married 3 weeks before us so I don't know what to expect from them. The brother is having a very traditional wedding with an expensive rehersal. I certainly don't expect them to pay, but it's more the thought (or lack thereof) that counts. We've had some major issues with equity on FI's sideof the family and this feels like a lack of support.
Posted 16 January 2008 - 03:11 AM
And it would have been destination for most of my family no matter what, since they are on the east coast, and if I didn't have it in Mexico, I would have had it in Los Angeles, so I ended up saving them some $$ in travel expenses, as LA is pricey these days.
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