Who is paying for what?
Posted 13 January 2008 - 11:47 PM
Monica, there is no way that he would say that to his parents and that annoys me to!
Posted 14 January 2008 - 12:58 AM
Posted 14 January 2008 - 01:31 AM
| Originally Posted by AnnR |
see, i never even once considered the fact that anyone would help pay for anything - i mean, it's our wedding. we're the ones asking people to come to a different country to see us get married. don't get me wrong, everyone was super excited to come - but it did cost them some $$. so Paul and I paid for everything - but we never even thought about someone offering. i'm sure we would have happily taken it (duh! lol) but no one did. paul's parents did give us a generous ($5K) cash gift after the wedding, which was a surprise. i say just be grateful that you're getting the help, and don't hold a grudge! maybe they have no idea that you expect them to offer.
Posted 14 January 2008 - 01:39 AM
Sam and I expected to pay for everything ourselves, but my mom actually contributed a large part of our wedding ($8k). We paid for their hotel room because we felt it was too much for them to then pay for travel as well. FI's family never offered to pay for anything - nor did I really expect the offer.
Posted 14 January 2008 - 08:05 AM
I explained I wasn't asking for money but just informing them of our plans, but my dad wanted to and has always planned to pay for his daughter's wedding. Father of the bride tradition, I guess. I'm the only daughter so this was his one shot and who am I to deny his generousity? Hehe..
Anyway, he contributed a good amount toward the wedding which was a treat as we weren't expecting it.
Posted 14 January 2008 - 09:03 AM
Posted 14 January 2008 - 09:35 AM
But BACK ON YOU!!! (had to vent!!)
I think that if your FI's parents are financially okay then I think that they should of been nice enough to offer to pay for you and your husbands flight and accommodations to the wedding destination or host a pre-wedding party!
I assumed that we were going to pay for everything! I guess because it took us so long to get married! Hes 40 and never been married and Im 29. I guess it would be a really nice gesture if someone offered to help out but I guess its not happening. Oh well!
Posted 14 January 2008 - 10:34 AM
The nicest part about being able to pay for it ourselves, is that we have no problem telling people that their input/gripes/weird requests/etc. won't likely be considered. It was wonderful to tell both sets of parents that it would be immediate family and our friends only - I don't have to worry about my second cousins, my mother's tennis partner, FI's horrid aunt, etc.
Yup. Best part about not taking money from a parent, is that when you say "Thanks, but this is OUR wedding", they've got nothing to come back with.
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Posted 14 January 2008 - 12:45 PM
PLUS... no one knows we are doing extra things like giving them each tons of gifts etc.... everything will be a huge surprise to them.
Oh and my FH parents' both work at the same place and the company closed in December... so they are both out of work. So I'm so glad we aren't depending on anyone to pay for our wedding.
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