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Did anyone else have friends or family members complain about your destination ideas? I am not offically engaged yet, but I know he has met with a jeweler and it will be this spring. We know we want a destination wedding and we have talked about many different ideas. At first we thought about CR but we want a summer wedding and the rainy season in CR is during our summer. Then Aruba - my mom complained about a long plane ride from Chicago insisting that it would be an 8 hour plane ride. I checked and it is a 5 hour plane ride. Now we are on the idea about Cabo and my cousin who will be my MOH flipped out on me about how expensive Cabo would be especially flying from Boston. I told her that she does not need to be there and I would understand if she was not able to make it. My parents and his parents both have Mariott time shares so now my mom is also putting pressure on me to use a time share rather than an all-inclusive. We both think an all-inclusive would be best in the long run for our guests. This way we would not have to worry about what we are doing at night, where are people going for dinner, do you have enough things to do to have a good time, etc. Urgh, just venting and seeing if anyone else had to deal with issues like these and how did you deal with them. Also, my parents and his parents would really want to go to a place with a nice beach since they are beach people. All these demands!

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I am sure we have all heard these gripes from family and friends. I know I did. But the most important thing to remember is that they will probably complain no matter where it is so go with the place where you guys want to be married. At the end of the day, they will come if they can and they might even shock you about how great an experience it was. Try not to let them discourage you even though it may be hard. You can't please everyone.

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complaints, complaints, complaints...yea I've had my share...and I'm sure there's more to come. You're not alone in this department...

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no matter where in the world you pick, someone will have a gripe about something. so just make yourself happy... :)

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Nothing but excitement from people in the beginning "Oh, I can't wait to come!" or "Vacation in Jamaica, here we come!!!" or "I wouldn't miss it for the world!". Then reality sets in and everyone excuses begin. Granted some are valid excuses. It's just hard to hear Yes, Yes, YES! And then Maybe. No. Blah.

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This was one of my first eye-opening wedding planning shockers. I thought that people would think, "wherever you want to go is ok w/ me. If we can't 'swing it, then we'll have to celebrate w/ you another time or another way." Ha! That didn't happen - everyone had an opinion. Then, when we changed the destination to the place that seemed to accommodate everyone the best, many of the people who said they would go, now aren't..... So you really should just choose the place you want to go to the most and then go w/ it. And ignore any possible negative comments along the way. Everyone has had a chance to do their own weddings their own way. This is your chance.

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Originally Posted by bounciekat View Post
no matter where in the world you pick, someone will have a gripe about something. so just make yourself happy... :)
Isn't this the truth...sheesh! Seriously though - I thought everyone would be so happy for us! Especially since my Dad had a DW when I was 12. About 50 ppl came and everyone had the best time! But now my Grandparents (Dad's parents) who I thought would be my biggest supporters are turning into my biggest complainers! It makes me really sad, but in the end I know they'll be there no matter what and probably end up having the best time of their lives.

We've also had a lot of people that have acted jealous or even mad at us for having a DW - saying we're selfish. Aye yi yi.... it's about the experience. Neither one of us have ever dreamed of the typical church wedding and Mexico means a lot to us and our goal is to share this with our loved ones. If they can't make it for financial (or other) reasons we will be sad of course but try our best to understand. We plan on having a big AHR to celebrate with all who couldn't make it to the ceremony...

Just know you're not alone in this ~ GOOD LUCK!!!!

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you are not alone - we have all gone through this at some point or another - you and your FI need to make a decision and make sure the 2 of you are on the same page and then let everyone else deal with their own shit!

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I just complained about the same thing last night. There were a few complaints initially as to why we just couldnt get married at home, but eventually, I thought everyone was on board.

 

While people were excited about traveling with us when we sent out the save-the-dates, now that the time to book has come, I've gotten more people who have backed out than I could have ever imagined.

 

My advice: Do what's best for the 2 of you. It's your wedding, your dream, your life. As these ladies have pointed out to me, you are the one's who matter, not everyone else. You can't make everyone happy so you have to focus on your own happiness.

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