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Hi ladies,

 

I am new to the forum. Our DW is at the Riu palace Mexico in April. We are having about 40 people. We decided to do only a best man and matron of honor because 1. It is such a small wedding and 2. We didn't want people to have to pay for all the other things (dress, make up, shoes, jewelry, showers, bachelorette parties, etc) on top of their travel costs. However, there are 3 ladies in my life whom I'd like to honor/acknowledge in some way. Any ideas? We won't be having any readings at the service and I think only one of them would be comfortable making a toast. Is there something else I can have them do or a gift I can get them or something? Any ideas would be appreciated.

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Welcome! You could have one be your "personal attendant." I've learned that not everywhere in the country has this role in a wedding (I get strange looks when I mention it!) - but in MN typically the bride has 1 or 2 personal attendant. Their role is to help the bride out what whatever she needs; makeup, hair, making sure she's fed, carrying her makeup and other stuff she may need, carrying a "emergency" kit (bobby pins, safety pins, nail polish, etc.). Just an idea!

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Hi ladies,

I am new to the forum. Our DW is at the Riu palace Mexico in April. We are having about 40 people. We decided to do only a best man and matron of honor because 1. It is such a small wedding and 2. We didn't want people to have to pay for all the other things (dress, make up, shoes, jewelry, showers, bachelorette parties, etc) on top of their travel costs. However, there are 3 ladies in my life whom I'd like to honor/acknowledge in some way. Any ideas? We won't be having any readings at the service and I think only one of them would be comfortable making a toast. Is there something else I can have them do or a gift I can get them or something? Any ideas would be appreciated.
can i ask the age of the ladies? and their relationship to you? this might help me have a better idea.

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I had two girls that were very important to me, but not bridesmaid, do my guest book. I treated them like wedding party, but they didn't have to buy a dress or stand up at the alter. They seemed pretty happy with this role. I also included them in the BM pedicures and got them gifts along with the BM's.

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Those are some great ideas, ladies. I'd love to do the spa thing, but many of my other friends have asked to be around helping the days leading up to the wedding, so leaving them out wouldn't be cool.

 

The three special ladies are:

1. my brother's wife, age 26,

2. my fiance's sister, age 35

3. my roommate and best friend from college, age 32

 

I was thinking maybe having a private toast with them at some point and presenting them with a gift? What are you guys getting your BMs? I'd really like to honor them AT the ceremony or reception in some way though. Maybe getting them corsages? Is that cheesy?

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a toast or special thanks to them does not sound cheesy at all!

 

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Those are some great ideas, ladies. I'd love to do the spa thing, but many of my other friends have asked to be around helping the days leading up to the wedding, so leaving them out wouldn't be cool.

 

The three special ladies are:

1. my brother's wife, age 26,

2. my fiance's sister, age 35

3. my roommate and best friend from college, age 32

 

I was thinking maybe having a private toast with them at some point and presenting them with a gift? What are you guys getting your BMs? I'd really like to honor them AT the ceremony or reception in some way though. Maybe getting them corsages? Is that cheesy?

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