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Bridesmaid etiquette for DW

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#11 starchild



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    Posted 26 December 2007 - 08:03 AM

    Originally Posted by nylalany
    My question is though, do bridesmaids NEED bouquets? Are there other options?
    Not if you ask me....only MOH and I had bouquets. Two reasons - first because that was a few hundred dollars I was able to cut out, and second because our wedding was in a jungle full of foliage. We didn't feel it was necessary. They didn't carry anything, just locked arms with the GM who walked with them.

    And I agree to have as many special people in your wedding as you want to, no rules. We planned on 6 and 6 which turned out to be 5 and 4....one GM volunteered to walk with 2 girls and it worked out fine :P

    #12 DanielleNDerek

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      Posted 26 December 2007 - 10:41 AM

      I'm only having two but that was by choice. I wanted it small. Derek's sister was married in Riviera Maya about two years ago and she had 6. I say, choose how many you want.
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      #13 FutureMrs.L

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        Posted 26 December 2007 - 12:04 PM

        Instead of a whole bouquet you can do just 3 flowers. That is what my sister did. She carried a nice sized bouquet and the 5 of us that were in the wedding carried 3 gerber daisys. It turned out nice and they did not charge her for a bouqet instead I think she paid about $5 USD for each set of gerber daisys.

        #14 Michelle&Steve

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          Posted 29 December 2007 - 01:07 PM

          i think you can do whatever you want.. its your wedding, so you make the rules. my fiance and I both have big families and lots of friends. we have 9 bridesmaids and 9 GM.. so its a lil insane.. but what the hell.. itll be a good time. it is seeming to get expensive though with 9 boquets, getting all their hair and makeup done.. we'll see how it goes
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          #15 foxytv

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            Posted 10 January 2008 - 05:17 PM

            no rules. I had 5 BM initially. One recently dropped out. But FH had only 4 GM and it didn't matter to us, but now the numbers evened out. lol.

            Fewer BM's equal less stress though as far as agreement, etc.

            I have one friend I wish I asked to be a BM, but instead I'm having her help me with other stuff but still inviting her and her hubby to the rehearsal dinner and giving her the same gift as a BM.

            #16 jamisoncollette

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              Posted 10 January 2008 - 05:35 PM

              I am having one attendant and my daughter, Fi has three guys. Again, no rules! As for the asking, we both sent emails! I know lame. I followed up with a note and a present that included coconut body butter from The Body Shop and a sarong.

              #17 MelissaH

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                Posted 10 January 2008 - 05:40 PM

                I agree - no rules!

                I mean look at what's her face from the Bachelorette...she had like 30! (although it was all paid for so who cares right? haha)

                As for the flowers...my MOH only had a couple of flowers and it looked great (you can sort of see them here [brutal picture aaah!] http://i128.photobuc....ding/wed27.jpg)

                #18 Yari

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                  Posted 10 January 2008 - 05:52 PM

                  Originally Posted by kitcatkit
                  Maybe a bit off topic but how did you girls ask your bridesmaid. Also I have read that etiquette for DW is that you should pay for their trip are you doing that?
                  There are all sorts of way you can ask. I just asked mine over the phone right after I got engaged cause I was so excited. They have very cute cards that ask people to. Oh, there was a thread yesterday (I think) that showed very cute ask cards...they were a DIY.

                  As for etiquette, I've read in quite a few books that it really is up to and your budget. The Knot destination wedding book says the bride and groom should be for lodging onlly.

                  I however was in a destination wedding a few years ago and I paid for my whole trip including the dress.

                  It really depends on you.

                  #19 Alyssa

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                    Posted 11 January 2008 - 03:34 PM

                    follow your heart and don't make your friends into numbers - who cares what anyone else thinks?!?

                    i am having 7 on my side and we are having a DW in Hawaii - we have 40 people total coming and FI and i keep joking that half of them will be standing up for us :)

                    #20 boscobel

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                      Posted 11 January 2008 - 04:27 PM

                      I have 7 girls, but only 3 that are coming to Jamaica. Matt's men are still being worked out, he is supposed to have 6, but we think some might not make it.

                      I asked by making "will you be my..." cards. they were super-cute! I made a different one for each girl that woudl suit her and I was really proud of them. I should ask them to take pics for me. Oh, that also worked really well fo rme cuz I asked everyone around last V-day.

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