Baby Gifts From Unusual People.

[Jessica]

I'm not even sure where to put this or what to call this thread.

 

Background. Brian is a paramedic. The company he works for owns several hospitals in the area, including the one I'm delivering at. He knows a lot of the nurses and doctors at this hospital pretty well.

 

Well there's this one nurse who has a bit of a "work crush" on Brian. He denies it, but I know she does. I mean, that's fine, whatever. I know (well as much as I can know) that he's not attracted to her, the crush is one sided, blah blah blah. It doesn't bother me. I've met her once, she was civil, but it was through sort of clenched teeth that she talked to me... if that makes sense. It was actually pretty funny. I know some of the other nurses and know how this nurse flirts all the time with Brian (they all tell me he's pretty much oblivious to it and I know they would tell me if there was anything to worry about).

 

So anyway, a few of the nurses have sent baby gifts home with Brian. It's so sweet. Then the other night he drops in (while on his shift) with two of those jumbo gift bags. I was half asleep, so didn't ask who they were from or anything and he went back to work. So the next morning I look through them I'm like...wow! There is a crapload of really nice and pricey baby gifts. I mean, one gift alone would have been enough because they are not inexpensive items.

 

So I'm thinking maybe this is from several doctors? I finally find the card.

 

"To Brian and Aiden. I can't wait for the baby to enjoy these gifts and to meet the little prince! Always, ----" It was the flirty nurse.

 

I don't know if I'm overreacting but I got PISSED. I mean, first of all, hello?! Where's my name? Not even Brian and Family. Or Brian and wife, or any generic mention of me. And what the hell is it with all the fancy gifts?!

 

So when Brian came home I asked him if he looked in the bag or read the card. Of course he didn't. When he did he thought it was a bit much, but he's like "Eh, just write her a thank you card and keep the stuff!"

 

Half of me wants to keep them, but at the same time I'm kind of "eh" about it. It's just weird to me to spend all that money. Unless she mangaged to somehow get all this stuff for less money than it should be?! I don't know if it's the horomones or what, but it just kind of rubbed me the wrong way. I'm trying not to let it bother me though.

 

Opinions?

 

**sorry, i rambled on more than i though i would**

[StephanieMN]

Yeah that is a little like a dead rabbit cooking on your stove top! Yikes. I suppose there really isn't much you can do. You will look odd if you try to give the stuff back and these are the people who are going to take care of you baby when it's born.

I would just assume she went crazy and held up her local Target and got you all this stuff for free and one day the law will catch up with her. She really has some boundry issues but I guess, right now, it is to your advantage.

[Alyssa]

jessica - that would piss me off to - like hello i am his wife and if is wasn't for me you would never get to meet the 'prince' WTF!!!!!!

 

i would send her a nice thank you note, don't play into her drama and keep your eye on her! Beatch

[MikkiStreak]

Well, it's possible that if she got them late last week, she could have gotten some really strong discounts on them because of the holidays. I went shopping on Friday and was able to get a leather jacket for Frank for 75% off.

 

Quantity of presents---- yea, for a working relationship---- even if she got an amazing discount, it's a little strange to buy SO much for someone you have contact with only at work.

 

Signing of the card---- yep, I'd be offended too. Even if I don't know the spouses name, I would still refer to them in the note.... like "congrats to you and your wife, can't wait to meet Aiden!" So that would rub me the wrong way too.

 

As for response: If you send them back, this lady is going to think you're "threatened" by her. If you write a thank you note, it brings you into her reality. Since Brian sees her thru work, then he can thank her in person. I'd leave the thank you note for only you to write. Be polite, be gracious, and keep the gifts.

 

Even tho that's the logical way to approach this, I'd still be tempted to sign the thank you note just from you and Aiden since Brian can say thank you in person when he sees her at work. Nothing like driving home a point!

[CourtneyV]

Ya, that'd rub me the wrong way too. I can't see how she could possibly not think to include your name. If I were you, I'd sign the card "From Brian, Aiden, and of course, Jessica".

[Yari]

You have every right to be PO'd.

 

I would definitely send her a thank you card and write your name large.

 

[JulieG]

Jessica, it would totally bug me. Totally. But I agree with what others have said, you should keep the stuff and write a thank you note from your perfect little family. A note coming from you will really bug her and I think that is the best revenge. She will know that stuff was brought right home to YOU. She is just crazy.

[*JillD*]

oooooh, I would be so pissed! thats just really rude, IMO, but as others have said, you don't want her to feel like she got to you either, so send a thank you card and I would put some subtle sarcasm in there, with your name in LARGE letters.

[Maura]

ugh! what a tacky tacky bitch, that nurse! you KNOW she left out your name on purpose. but here's what you should do. keep the baby presents. then write a thank you note, preferably on some stationery that has your married name on it or something that says "Jessica and Brian X". write something like "dear X, it was very sweet of you to think of us and the baby. i appreciate the thought and look forward to showing off my and Brian's baby when he is born. Thanks again and best wishes, Mrs. Jessica X"

 

just send the note from you without brian and aiden's names so that she gets the message. tell brian to thank her verbally and also to mention how much his wife loved the gifts. writing the thank you note yourself when she intentionally left your name off the card is a written bitch slap which she will recognize and will hopefully put her in her place. what a skank!

[Jessica]

Yeah, I decided, just to keep the stuff. I like all of it, it's really cute, and hey, I didn't pay for it so whatever. She gave us (or, shall I say Brian and Aiden!) a cashmere bear (whoa!), a Barefoot Dreams blanket, a bunch of Kiehl's baby bath stuff (I didn't even know they made this), and a bunch of baby outfits from Nordstroms (Ralph Lauren and Juicy Couture... I don't even have that stuff!). I mean, apparently her family is wealthy, so she isn't living on a nurses income alone, but geez. Maria, I hope you are right about the sales!

 

I'm thinking of telling Brian to tell her that Aiden really wants a Mercedes. We wouldn't want the little prince to be riding around in a mid-class car now would we!

 

Brian and I went out for some last minute shopping, I got her a nice card, wrote a really sweet thank you note and I'll send it off with the DH when he goes to work tomorrow. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't totally overreacting with my initial feelings of wanting to kick her a$$.