shower $ question
Posted 29 November 2007 - 04:39 PM
Posted 29 November 2007 - 05:18 PM
Posted 29 November 2007 - 05:22 PM
Posted 29 November 2007 - 05:30 PM
Danielle - I have been to Adelphia before, but it's a little far for me to travel since we will be having gifts to transport home. I live in the suburbs near Quakertown, almost Allentown way.
I have a few places figured out. Like one place I like is $21 or $28/person. I wanted to try to keep it around $15/person, but I just don't know if that is possible, so basically, I just want to know if I am unreasonable in my expectations.
Posted 29 November 2007 - 05:32 PM
You always hear about bridesmaids complaining everything costs so much.. well, if it isn't your idea of when/where to have it, they'll figure out whatever they're comfortable with and you'll have a great time.
Posted 29 November 2007 - 06:12 PM
| Originally Posted by carlymcmullen |
I hear ya, Kate, and I agree. If I could control my thoughts, I would let it go. But I want to be different to my BM's then the way it was for weddings that I was in, spending a million dollars. I am trying to be conscience of them and I don't want to want something ridiculously expensive and them to tell me it's ok and then struggle to make it happen. I know I am stressing myself out of nothing, but you know how it is when a thought gets into your head!
Posted 29 November 2007 - 06:33 PM
If you waited until late March or early April I bet you could find a warm weekend day.
Posted 29 November 2007 - 06:43 PM
Posted 30 November 2007 - 05:32 PM
As one of many bridesmaids, it's nearly impossible to speak up for yourself if you don't want to spend that much money on any of the wedding expenses. The girls are likely to say it's fine, but just because they don't want to upset anyone. Then people always say they can find a way to afford it. But, often the way people find the money isn't something you'd want your friends to do. I'd feel terrible to find out a friend had charged it on a credit card & paid it off at high interest. Or to learn they depleted their emergency savings, etc. Maybe it's just that they did without a new purse they wanted. But either way, it shouldn't take a lot of sacrifice to be a BM.
Even though they accepted the position, maybe they had no idea what it would actually cost. You never get the full expense up front when asked to be in a wedding. Even if they were concerned about cost, it's nearly impossible to say no to being a BM without really hurting feelings. It's a really stressful situation when you have no control over how much money you are spending for a wedding.
Another thought is, often the showers are thown by aunts, family friends, etc. Most of us are 20-30 something. It's such an expensive time because people are buying their first home, having kids, paying for their own wedding, paying off student loans, etc. In the weddings I've been a part of lately, it was women other than the BMs throwing the shower. They probably had plenty of disposable income & enjoyed throwing the shower. It was also their only wedding related expense so wasn't as much of an issue. Maybe you have some family members/ family friends who would want to be a part of the planning process.
Sorry this got so long. I just always push for keeping it cheap for the bridesmaids. I've been a BM so many times & I've seen a lot of my friends get really upset about the cost of being a BM. You sound worried about the cost & I think as a group we could come up with something that would save your BMs money & still be great. Maybe rent a place where you can bring in your own food/ alcohol. I've also been to showers inside the person's church rec room. And I often see people have several small showers like someone mentioned before. They are usually each thrown by different groups of people. I also like the idea of having it at a park.
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