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I know this topic is going to strike a chord with many brides…

 

We are getting married in Riviera Maya. We decided to have no bridal party as our guests are spending a great deal of money to travel to Mexico and we don’t want our friends and family to spend more on bridal party costs.

 

I’m inviting many of my girlfriends/sisters to join me in the bridal suite the morning of the wedding- a care-free and fun getting ready party for everyone!

I know the resort provides a day of coordinator for the wedding. What I’m thinking is I may ask one of my best girlfriends to act as our day of coordinator, and be the resort’s “go-to” for all questions regarding our wedding. I have a very special friend in mind; she is coordinating with several other girlfriends are working together to plan the shower and bachelorette party and she keeps asking me “how can I help?”

 

I’m not expecting this person to help me pee or fetch things for me or be my “bridal b*tch” – I would just be asking her to make some decisions or answer questions from the resort/guests if needed. My FI and I both totally trust this person to make decisions on our behalf and she’ll ensure we don’t get hit with any fees or surprises. And honestly, I can’t imagine there’ll be much since the resort has the whole ‘wedding day execution’ down pat.

I am absolutely planning to give her an amazing gift, to thank her for her help and include her in the program. (I’ve thought about paying a portion of her travel, or something similar)

 

I cannot handle the term “personal attendant” because she is not! She’s an amazing woman who we know can make calm decisions under pressure, who is organized, super friendly and just overall amazing. She’d be a Bridesmaid if we were having a bridal party, but that’s not an option.

 

Has anyone done something like this in the past? Any ideas on what to call her?

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I think that's a great idea and if she keeps asking you how she can help, I think she would be honored to help you on the big day.  What if you told her that if you had a bridal party, she'd clearly be a part of it and you were wondering if she'd be your person of honor that day?  Maybe you can ask in a card so you can give a quick summary of what you're asking her to do.  Ideas of titles:  day of coordinator, right-hand lady, person of honor, best bitch, lol.  

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Thanks for the ideas!

 

I took her to dinner and asked her if she'd be my "right-hand-lady". She was very excited to be part of the day and all the planning. she said she was actually grateful she wasn't a bridesmaid - she's been in a lot of weddings lately and is looking forward to hanging out with me for the day, but not having just a 'big formal role' as she called it.

 

I told her we need to come up with good title for her, because Personal Attendant does not fit. I told her we'll figure out the best title for her... some other ideas we had:

 

Best Gal

Master of Ceremonies

The Guide

Day of Genius

Right-Hand Lady

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