Hi @bmillerick Congrats on your upcoming wedding!
Picking your resort is the hardest part of your planning I think. There are just so many options out there! But not every option works for every bride and groom. Do you know what time of year you want to get married? Your budget and that of your guests, can be drastically affected just by that. As Joyce mentioned, do you want family friendly or adults only? Have you got a vision of what you want your wedding to be?
Definitely get in touch with a destination wedding travel agent. They can help you work within your budget, look at your wants and don't wants and work with you to pick a resort that is going to fit with what you have in mind. The owner of this site, Wright Travel, are destination wedding specialists and I'm sure they would be able to help you put ideas together that will help you make your decision. The other thing is, depending on the resort you choose, you might be entitled to some perks from the resort that you wouldn't event know about but a good TA would! Sometimes they will offer free events, or resort credits that your guests can also make use of. Every resort is different in what they offer and what they include so the help of a qualified TA will be invaluable. Then once that decision is made and you start inviting your guests, the TA will be able to be there and answer all of your guests' travel questions and leave you free to concentrate on wedding planning!
Once you have your resort and can apply for a date for your wedding, that's half the battle right there. Then you can start on the fun stuff and putting all of your other details together. You can contact Wright Travel through this site.
Good luck and happy planning!