I've told my friends even before I met my now fiance that I would probably have a destination wedding. All my best friends said they'd be there no matter what.
L who said she would be a bridesmaid is not coming now. She sent me a text saying she is scared of the Zika virus (she's not pregnant and won't be pregnant at our wedding).
S who also said she would be a bridesmaid hasn't called me to tell me that she is thinking of conceiving. I heard this from her L who is her sister. We are 10 days from our deposit deadline. In fact, I have not heard a word from her since the day I asked her to be bridesmaid.
T was a maybe. She said the trip would cost a lot for her husband and their 2.5 kids. Then she said she would try really hard to come on her own or bring her mother in law. A week later she said no.
I know cost is a big factor whether someone decides to come or not. I know what my friends can and cannot afford and they can definitely afford the trip. It's disappointing when I've put lots of effort into these friendships. I've been to engagement parties, bridal showers, stagettes, weddings, baby showers, babies birthdays and more babies birthdays, housewarmings. And now that it's my turn, they can't be bothered. In my opinion, their reasons just aren't good enough for me to accept. I get that S might be pregnant by then, but tell me that yourself. If I lived my life in fear like L is, I wouldn't have driven down the highway 3 hours multiple times for her major life events. I'm probably more likely to get hurt in a car accident than she is to get the Zika virus! T just solidified my theory that if you're not in the baby club like she is, that you're not worthy of her friendship. I've been the one keeping our friendship going since she's had kids and I'm tired of being the only one picking up the phone.
So now I am definitely reevaluating some friendships in my life!
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Edited by tpenner, 05 April 2016 - 06:32 PM.