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#1 calgarybride2015

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 12:26 PM

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I have no words.  I can't even fathom ever sending a bill to someone who didn't show up to my wedding.

This is grounds for 'friends off' IMO, but I guess a bride and groom sending a bill would imply they want 'friends off' anyways because that's no way to act.  It doesn't really even say if they spoke to eachother before the bill was sent -- who knows, something terrible could have happened. Have some compassion before you get angry you paid for an extra plate.

 

I pick my friendships over $75.

 

Some of the comments on the post on FB actually are in favor of this.   One stated they could have atleast called or texted the bride/groom to say they weren't coming.  What couple on their wedding day needs that stress or has time for that? Even if you did try, they may not even see the text or hear the phone ring.  A follow up call a day or two later is appropriate IMO.

 

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 12:51 PM

it is pretty nuts. I remembered a good friend of mine no-showed for a mutual friends wedding.  e never gave an explanation to her but we all remained friends.

 

Maybe just reach out to see why the event was missed.  Usually their is a good reason.

 

What the bride and groom did was pretty tacky.


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    Posted 01 October 2015 - 02:18 PM

    Goodness that is insane and tacky, :o  :o  :o just the thought of going through process of preparing the bill though. there is always a good explanation why someone was a no show.   Bottom line you married your Mr or Mrs Right and that is all that matters.   

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    Posted 01 October 2015 - 05:48 PM

    Oh definitely tacky but hilarious and probably what everyone wants to do. Obviously they aren't planning on keeping that friend.

    I think a text or email is warranted for sure. You're right no one has time for a call but I bet most brides are on their phone for part of the day getting ready I know I was checking Facebook on wifi in Mexico! A girl never showed up to my friends wedding ( no text no call) and my friend the bride was checking her phone wondering if she got Into an accident! You bet she shouldn't have wasted time on that.

    I just think people these days are so rude as evidenced by planning my wedding. We had one guest no show ( she did email) due to not making the appropriate arrangements. I think in that situation she should have sent a gift but I'm just going by etiquette here it just would have been the right thing to do but whatevs there goes 100$

    #5 calgarybride2015

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    Posted 01 October 2015 - 05:53 PM

    You are right sending a text the day of would have been appropriate in case they did look or for the next day they can see you made that effort. But that said, if you didn't talk to your friend before sending the bill you wouldn't know if maybe she had a serious accident and was in a coma hence no call or text could be made. Can go both ways I guess.

    Haha I wasn't on my phone at all after I left for breakfast on the day of my wedding. I had no time. It went so fast and was such a whirlwind. Thinking back, I wonder how long it would have taken me to notice someone didn't show in Mexico (ie drunk at the swim up bar). It was such a blur!


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    Posted 01 October 2015 - 09:29 PM

    I can't believe they actually had the nerve to send it! I mean really? "How to lose friends in 5 seconds"  It happens. People don't show. We had it at our AHR. Restaurants always build in for no shows and I really don't think 2 plates would have affected their pricing. To me that's someone worried only about the money they're spending and not about what the wedding means. And absolutely very, very tacky!


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    Posted 02 October 2015 - 05:10 AM

    That's so distasteful that it's not even funny. Not exactly the same situation, but similar.. my coworker got married earlier in the year and the day after the wedding her and her husband sat down and went through every single card and made a spreadsheet. They realized that some people attended and didn't give any money so they actually reached out to these people after. It was terrible and I couldn't believe it. It was especially greedy because she had MADE money on her wedding here. 

    I could never approach someone like that and tell them to give me money. SO distasteful.

     

    As for this situation though, I do think that they could have just sent a text or called someone to let them know. I know that it wouldn't have made a difference regardless because the plate was prepaid, but I think it's the principle.


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    #8 calgarybride2015

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    Posted 02 October 2015 - 05:48 AM

    That's so distasteful that it's not even funny. Not exactly the same situation, but similar.. my coworker got married earlier in the year and the day after the wedding her and her husband sat down and went through every single card and made a spreadsheet. They realized that some people attended and didn't give any money so they actually reached out to these people after. It was terrible and I couldn't believe it. It was especially greedy because she had MADE money on her wedding here.
    I could never approach someone like that and tell them to give me money. SO distasteful.

    As for this situation though, I do think that they could have just sent a text or called someone to let them know. I know that it wouldn't have made a difference regardless because the plate was prepaid, but I think it's the principle.


    What?? What did they say to these people? What If they gave a gift and not money? Lol. I'm stunned at people's tasteless actions sometimes.

    We had people at our wedding not give a card or a gift, who cares. They showed their love by coming.


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    Posted 02 October 2015 - 06:20 AM

    @calgarybride2015 They played it off like "We wanted to make sure that your card didn't get lost". It was so tacky.. when she told me she was doing that I felt so embarrassed for her. If someone doesn't gift you.. then they don't gift you. You can't control that and it's so tacky to ask for money omg. I would NEVER lol.


     

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    #10 calgarybride2015

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    Posted 02 October 2015 - 08:17 AM

    That is tacky!! I know there was confusion at my wedding because people were also asked to contribute a memory to the time capsule so things got into the wrong boxes etc. I can bet I open a wedding card in 5 years as I did open some time capsule cards on my wedding day lol. Who cares. It's the thought that counts.


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