I appreciate all of the support from you ladies and hearing your stories. I don't feel alone in any of this.. this is why I love this forum so so much!!
My FI met with one of them tonight (the one causing the most drama) and he is no longer in the bridal party. He also decided not to come at all.. so sadly I think the friendship is really over. It's pretty sad how bitter some people get over other people's happiness and weddings. His loss.
I can see from your ladies stories that this is obviously something that is quite common. I was talking to one of my friends who got married this past year and she told me how much of an eye opener their wedding was. I guess out of all of this I have realized that this is such a blessing in disguise. Nothing would hurt me more then to look back at our pictures and our big day and have negativity around someone who was simply being an impostor in my FI's and my life.
I am sorry to hear that you think the friendship is over, but I think it is probably for the best. You don't need the stress at this point in your lives or at any time really! Focus on the people who are happy for you and who are supporting you. They deserve it most!
As you can see, I think most of us (if not all) have some wedding drama to share!!! Like @TinkerSofi said, we even leave a lot of it off the boards. I can say I had some trying moments - ones I have openly shared here and some not. But the main one I always bring up is the one of my 'so called' bestfriend. The one I couldn't wait to plan my wedding with, but the one who never talked to me about my wedding, who gave lame excuses when I asked her to be involved, blah blah. I haven't talked to her in over a year, and I don't miss her at all. I hate for that to sound rude, because it's not meant to be, but I don't. I have focused on my true friends and that's all I need in my life..... real friends and family.