Vows: How Long, What To Include And Opinions

[jeffandrobyn]

My fiance and I are doing our own vows. I like what I wrote but I feel like it's too short. At the same time, I don't want to write a book. Here's what I've got. Anyone have suggestions? Feedback? 

 

 

I can still see you so clearly in my mind walking towards me at the start of our first date. I remember thinking ‘wow,’ he’s so cute! Then one week later you started talking about marrying me, and ‘wow’ went to ‘whoa!’ I don’t know why I didn’t run at that point. Most people probably would have. But not running was the greatest decision I ever made because if I had, I would’ve missed out on finding my best friend. I would’ve missed out on spending my life with the guy I get a little sad about leaving every morning, and excited to see when I come home. And I’d never have the privilege of becoming your wife today.

 

So now I promise you this. I promise to always make us my priority. I promise to always be your cheerleader and stand behind you. I promise to throw out your socks when they have holes in them without telling you, but also to continue confiding in you about everything else. I will always believe in you, be there for you and cherish every moment we have together. But most importantly, I promise to love you forever. 

[calgarybride2015]

I think it's perfect

 

Haha men and their holy socks!

 

 

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[TinkerSofi]

I think they are perfect!! I don't know you guys but they are very personal and emotional  

 

Haha, I'm the one with the holey socks and Juan throws them out for me haha 

 

I still have to write mine and have no idea what to say! 

[Megg]

@@jeffandrobyn I think they are great length. Time them out. I think about a minute is what was recommended when I looked up writing mine. ours were just under a minute each. Good luck! Vows can be tough

Here was the ones I wrote for him. We just got married at the Riu on the 9th! Hope it can help. I googled how to write vows and you can find great tips and a format to follow. We both followed the same format so the vows would flow for both.

 

Jay, ten years ago I walked into the Hollywood Bistro. What I expected was to have a few drinks with friends but what happened was so much more. I met a man who respected me. I met a man with goals and dreams that matched mine. I met a man who loved cats, a man who gives so much more than he receives. A man who tucks me in at at night and kisses my head before he leaves for work in the morning. A man who makes me laugh harder than anyone else.

 

I met a man who always says thank you. And that man is you. So today I want to thank you. Thank you for being my partner, my inspiration and my heart. For always lifting me up when I feel down. For taking the time to ask me how I am and listening to the answer. For making me want to be better.

 

I promise to never take you for granted. Every day with you is a gift that I look forward to opening. I promise to be honest with you as I always have. I promise to be your biggest fan. I promise to make you proud that I am your wife. And most importantly I promise never to let myself go.

 

I look forward to growing old with you. To reaching every goal we set together. From running our first marathon to retiring in Florida.

 

You are my best friend, my lover and now my husband.

[jeffandrobyn]

@@Megg

 

Wow! Your vows are so beautiful that they made me tear up - and I don't even know you!!!! 

 

Thanks for sharing. And congrats on your wedding! 

[Megg]

@@Megg

 

Wow! Your vows are so beautiful that they made me tear up - and I don't even know you!!!! 

 

Thanks for sharing. And congrats on your wedding!

 

Thank you! I love yours as well. Very personal which is all that matters. Vows are for your partner.

[jeffandrobyn]

@@Megg

 

I borrowed your 'life is a gift' line. It was so beautiful. 

[Megg]

@@jeffandrobyn

 

No problem! That's why I posted them. I would have been lost without this site planning our wedding! All of the brides on her were so helpful to me.

[JJCB0418]

What you wrote is beautiful.  I wouldn't worry so much about the format or length as long as you say what's on your heart. I wouldn't go on for too long since people will be sitting in the beautiful sun!  Mine were a bit longer (probably a little over 2 minutes) and his were really short (less than a minute), but I said everything I wanted and didn't walk away feeling "I should have said..." 

 

I actually wrote mine the day before by the pool!  haha  Obviously, it's something I had been thinking about for a very long time so I had ideas of what I wanted to say, but just needed to put it on paper.  I didn't do any research ahead of time about how to write them, for me it would have confused me and made me think about it in a more calculated way....but that's just me! Plus, I've been to a few weddings and have watched a million tv/movie weddings so maybe that was my research.