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#21 LisaAnthonyPoppy

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Posted 14 May 2015 - 07:32 PM

And ACW271011 or whatever your name is, since we are on the topic of bravery and honesty, I can honestly say that over this last year you have been less than positive and I detect a sense of smugness in your responses to me. So I ask that you keep your negativity far far away from me and refrain from commenting on my posts.
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#22 pjay

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Posted 15 May 2015 - 04:54 AM

Your latest post put a smile on my face this morning. I'm so happy to hear that you and Scott are working for the love that you have. Also happy to hear that you have every intention on getting married in June. I totally understand your epiphany on the yoga mat, i've had those before. Yoga is so healing sometimes.

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#23 racht33

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Posted 15 May 2015 - 05:15 AM

@LisaAnthonyPoppy Im so happy to read your last post and see how talking it out and opening up has helped calm your worries. We all know we aren't perfect but when we can find someone to love us through all our imperfections that's when its worth it all! It's really great you were able to open up with your husband to be and him accept your thoughts openly. That's exactly what is needed, the open communication. This will help you move much further together.  Im so excited for you guys and we are all routing for the two of you!! Cant wait to see read about your wedding and see the pictures!!


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#24 rachelia160

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Posted 15 May 2015 - 06:03 AM

@LisaAnthonyPoppy Totally agree with your stance on counseling, of any sort - it doesn't have to be a sign that something's "wrong," it's just an outlet to help keep your life in perspective. I went into counseling after I was in a tragic car accident I was in during high school, and even though I've healed from it and am unbelievably happy with my life, I still go because I like it, and I think it helps me to be mentally healthier, even when nothing is "wrong" in my life.  

 

The same can be said for couples counseling. I don't think it's too "soon" at any stage. I think it could be a great experience for any couple, whether they were experiencing any kind of issues or not, because it helps you deal with things and work through them before they blow up into a huge issue that could potentially end a relationship.

 

I think it's great that you're so self-aware and weren't afraid to look inside yourself to figure out where the cold feet were coming from. I'm so glad you and your almost-hubby have gotten to a good place. Can't wait to hear about the wedding! :)



#25 beckys98

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Posted 15 May 2015 - 06:35 AM

@LisaAnthonyPoppy I literally had some tears reading your posts - thrilled to hear that this process has put you in a good place and now you're ready and able to enjoy your wedding. Hope this crew helped you a little :)

 

I also wholeheartedly agree with you and @rachelia160 on counseling. We are ALL different people with different histories, different quirks, different communication styles. Even when you are both trying really hard, sometimes you just need that objective party to help you really understand each other and get to a better place! Counseling can give you both better coping skills for challenging times (I also always have the instinct to run or quit) is a net positive and does not mean that you aren't a good fit for each other.

 

So cheers to you and your fiance! Now I can't wait to see some wedding photos!!



#26 acw271011

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Posted 16 May 2015 - 08:38 PM

And ACW271011 or whatever your name is, since we are on the topic of bravery and honesty, I can honestly say that over this last year you have been less than positive and I detect a sense of smugness in your responses to me. So I ask that you keep your negativity far far away from me and refrain from commenting on my posts.
Thanks,
LIsa


Considering the negativity that you marched onto this site with I wouldn't be so quick to call anyone negative. Smug? Hardly. You have no clue whatsoever what I've been through in my life but I've learned a lot. If you're too afraid to hear all sides then don't post here asking for opinions. Even if you were one of my kids going into counselling after such a short time together as a mom it would cause me concern. But you're a different generation. The real marriages that are now 60+ years in the making are from plain old hard work and respecting the other person in the relationship.

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#27 rachelia160

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Posted 18 May 2015 - 04:38 AM

The real marriages that are now 60+ years in the making are from plain old hard work and respecting the other person in the relationship.

 

With all due respect, I think going to counseling IS putting in hard work, and a way to respect your partner by putting in the effort to keep your relationship healthy. Going to counseling doesn't make a marriage any less "real."



#28 jeffandrobyn

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Posted 18 May 2015 - 01:38 PM

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I think it is normal to be nervous but I wouldn't say scared. I don't think any of us are going to find a man who we think is 100% perfect and vice versa. We all have our flaws so if I were you I would think about if his are going to end up being a deal breaker for you. There's a line from the Sex in the City movie that stuck with me. Samantha asks 'how often are you happy in your relationship?' And Charlotte answered ' every day. Maybe not every minute of every day but every day.'


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#29 calgarybride2015

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Posted 18 May 2015 - 02:56 PM

I think it is normal to be nervous but I wouldn't say scared. I don't think any of us are going to find a man who we think is 100% perfect and vice versa. We all have our flaws so if I were you I would think about if his are going to end up being a deal breaker for you. There's a line from the Sex in the City movie that stuck with me. Samantha asks 'how often are you happy in your relationship?' And Charlotte answered ' every day. Maybe not every minute of every day but every day.'


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Well said. That last quote can help us all, even me!


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#30 LisaAnthonyPoppy

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Posted 18 May 2015 - 08:08 PM

Sex In the City is a good one!

Edited by LisaAnthonyPoppy, 18 May 2015 - 08:11 PM.





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