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@@LisaAnthonyPoppy Totally agree with your stance on counseling, of any sort - it doesn't have to be a sign that something's "wrong," it's just an outlet to help keep your life in perspective. I went into counseling after I was in a tragic car accident I was in during high school, and even though I've healed from it and am unbelievably happy with my life, I still go because I like it, and I think it helps me to be mentally healthier, even when nothing is "wrong" in my life.  

 

The same can be said for couples counseling. I don't think it's too "soon" at any stage. I think it could be a great experience for any couple, whether they were experiencing any kind of issues or not, because it helps you deal with things and work through them before they blow up into a huge issue that could potentially end a relationship.

 

I think it's great that you're so self-aware and weren't afraid to look inside yourself to figure out where the cold feet were coming from. I'm so glad you and your almost-hubby have gotten to a good place. Can't wait to hear about the wedding! :)

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@@LisaAnthonyPoppy I literally had some tears reading your posts - thrilled to hear that this process has put you in a good place and now you're ready and able to enjoy your wedding. Hope this crew helped you a little :)

 

I also wholeheartedly agree with you and @@rachelia160 on counseling. We are ALL different people with different histories, different quirks, different communication styles. Even when you are both trying really hard, sometimes you just need that objective party to help you really understand each other and get to a better place! Counseling can give you both better coping skills for challenging times (I also always have the instinct to run or quit) is a net positive and does not mean that you aren't a good fit for each other.

 

So cheers to you and your fiance! Now I can't wait to see some wedding photos!!

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And ACW271011 or whatever your name is, since we are on the topic of bravery and honesty, I can honestly say that over this last year you have been less than positive and I detect a sense of smugness in your responses to me. So I ask that you keep your negativity far far away from me and refrain from commenting on my posts.

Thanks,

LIsa

Considering the negativity that you marched onto this site with I wouldn't be so quick to call anyone negative. Smug? Hardly. You have no clue whatsoever what I've been through in my life but I've learned a lot. If you're too afraid to hear all sides then don't post here asking for opinions. Even if you were one of my kids going into counselling after such a short time together as a mom it would cause me concern. But you're a different generation. The real marriages that are now 60+ years in the making are from plain old hard work and respecting the other person in the relationship.

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The real marriages that are now 60+ years in the making are from plain old hard work and respecting the other person in the relationship.

 

With all due respect, I think going to counseling IS putting in hard work, and a way to respect your partner by putting in the effort to keep your relationship healthy. Going to counseling doesn't make a marriage any less "real."

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I think it is normal to be nervous but I wouldn't say scared. I don't think any of us are going to find a man who we think is 100% perfect and vice versa. We all have our flaws so if I were you I would think about if his are going to end up being a deal breaker for you. There's a line from the Sex in the City movie that stuck with me. Samantha asks 'how often are you happy in your relationship?' And Charlotte answered ' every day. Maybe not every minute of every day but every day.'

 

 

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Well said. That last quote can help us all, even me!

 

 

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How amazing!!  I love your luggage inventory - that sounds about right!  I think I will probably have the same!  :)

 

All the best to you and your hubby to be - enjoy the sun, sand and all the love your guests will bring them! :)

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