How To Say "no Kids" To Some And Not To Others?
Posted 15 April 2015 - 06:40 AM
I think you may be able to dictate that they not come to the wedding festivities but a bit much to say they can't come at all. But then it brings us back if I had to find onsite babysitter I would be annoyed if I saw other kids at the reception...
Bottom line it's your wedding so you can say whatever you want but you might expiernce pushback, hurt feelings, questions or even guests who can't come
Posted 15 April 2015 - 07:20 AM
Definitely a sticky situation. All I can say is that if it were me, i'd definitely leave it open to children as well. It would spare some hurt feelings for sure and like some of the other brides had mentioned, there may be quite a few that don't come anyway..
It's a hard place to be in.. personally I wouldn't want a bunch of kids at the wedding either, but I would want to give some consideration to the guests.. it's still a 'vacation' for them as well.
Posted 16 April 2015 - 04:41 AM
I don't have kids so I might not be the most informed person on the subject, but to me it's YOUR wedding and you have the right to decide exactly who's there. Even if I had kids who couldn't come, I certainly would think that it was perfectly reasonable to have the kids who are closest to you there, even if there was a "no kids" policy for the guests. It would be a different story if you told one friend they could bring their kids and another that they couldn't - but when it's your family and the kids close to YOU, the couple, I think you get to make that call. Again, I don't have kids and maybe it would be more offensive to parents than it appears to me, but I don't think it's fair to you to have to not bring the people who are most important to you just to spare the feelings of a few parents.
Posted 17 April 2015 - 09:25 AM
I can see both sides. I absolutely agree that you should definitely have the wedding that YOU want and if that means including certain children, I think you should be able to do so without hurt feelings. On the other hand, are your god children family or friends? I think if you made the exception for just siblings and relatives, most people would understand. If your including children of friends, that can get sticky. It might be hard for guests to accept that they made special arrangements for their own children who couldn't attend, but other friends got to have their children there. I personally would not mind making arrangements for my children so I could attend a DW that they were not invited to, but I would not necessarily want to be surrounding by others children during that vacation. I think I would feel a bit guilty and annoyed, which can end in hurt feelings. BUT! I don't have children, so what do I know? LOL Our DW was at an adults only and we got some slack because of it but in the end, our guests could not stop thanking us for choosing an adults only. They said they would not have been able to relax and enjoy the events the way that they did had their children been around. They also said they got to reconnect with their spouse and enjoy some alone time. So maybe they wouldn't all bring their children anyway?
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Posted 18 April 2015 - 12:11 AM
Like a few other brides have said, a lot of times your destination wedding (a week of their vacation) will double as their once a year family vacation due to costs. Personally I would feel by saying "no kids" (except a select few) I would really rub some people the wrong way. If going away once a year with their families is something that they do and could only afford one trip a year, I would want it to be a trip with my FI and I to celebrate our wedding rather than not have them there at all.
I do agree it's your day and you have to follow your heart but these people are all spending a lot of money to see you get married (and to have a great vacation) and I think if they really want to bring their kids, they should have the option to because they are paying the bill (assuming you aren't paying for all of your guests).
I also agree with you that other than my best friends daughter and my nephew I would rather not have kids there BUT our guests with children mean the world to me so having them there even though that could mean their kids are running around, crying and irritable is more important to me at the end of the day.
Good luck with your decision. You know your invitees best, if you think they won't be too offended, than only include the names of the individuals you wish to attend.
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