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Ok. So I sent out Save the dates with TA info and wedding info on it close to 10 months prior to my wedding date.  Right now, I am sort of torn between who I am sending invitations to.  There has been about 3-4 rounds of STDs (electronic) and 1 through the mail sent out reminding everyone and sort of encouraging them to do deposits and book their travel. So I'm thinking who gets invitations everyone who got save the dates or everyone who has paid deposits and who are working on their travel?? 
I sent out save the dates to people that I "knew" weren't coming.  Some of them just wanted to be nosey and just wanted to feel included.  But I KNOW they really had no intentions on travelling with us to get married.

HELP!!!  I need advice.

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I didn't send invitations to anyone that told me they weren't coming or I knew for a fact they weren't coming....with the exception of a couple older people (grandmothers) that wanted it for a keepsake. :)


I've found that people find a reason to be offended so its such a sticky thing to consider.

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I've always read that you're supposed to send invitiations to everyone you sent a save the date to because you don't know if situations have changed and people can make it.  But you know you're guest list best and will know if anyone will be offended if they don't get an actual invite.

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I sent invites to everyone who got a Save the Date, even though I already knew who was and wasn't coming.  For a Destination Wedding especially, I think the invitations are more about the gesture of being invited, and showing that you're thinking of them even if they can't attend, rather than about sending out necessary information (since the people who are working on the travel probably have all the info already). I would definitely at least send them to your close friends and family who aren't attending...I think I'd be hurt if I had to tell a friend I couldn't make it to her destination wedding and then didn't even get an invite!

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I sent invites to absolutely everyone I invited, even if they told me they weren't coming. My fiance didn't agree with this and I think you'll get a different opinion from everyone. It just felt right to send everyone an invite. It's kind of playing it safe so one one gets offended. You'd be surprised, some people say no and then they get offended that you didn't send them one :rolleyes: . Very frustrating. 

 

I would at least send them to people who have booked and those who haven't said anything yet. Some are waiting for the invite before booking :)

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I have debated this as well I think ultimately I am going to send to everyone as I might be doing a small backyard AHR after the wedding so this is a way of letting them know if they cant make the DW that we still want to celebrate with them. I am not sure if I want to do RSVPs though through the mail I feel like I will know by the deadline everyone who is coming and I don't need a food choice so I was just going to do them through our wedding website but I am still a while out so we will see.

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I have debated this as well I think ultimately I am going to send to everyone as I might be doing a small backyard AHR after the wedding so this is a way of letting them know if they cant make the DW that we still want to celebrate with them. I am not sure if I want to do RSVPs though through the mail I feel like I will know by the deadline everyone who is coming and I don't need a food choice so I was just going to do them through our wedding website but I am still a while out so we will see.

 

That was another part of my reasoning for sending an invitation to everyone - I had the DW info on one side, and the AHR info on the other.

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What did you use as electronic reminders for the wedding, We are still a while out a year and 4 months but we sent the mail save the dates out back in November. I wanted to give people as much time as possible to save up with hopes that they would make installment payments. I do not want them to forget though since I sent it so long before the wedding.

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I sent invitations to everyone who received a save-the-date-card. The ones who already declined before the invitations went out, I included a small note saying that we will miss them at the wedding but are thinking of them. We told them to keep the invitation as a keepsake. 

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