@JamaicaNicole See.. that's what frustrates me too! I feel like my fiance puts in a lot more effort into his friendships and doesn't get the same in return. He was the best man in a destination wedding a few years ago, now this guy isn't coming to our wedding after he already RSVP yes.. My fiance is really bothered by it because he paid an arm and a leg to goto this guys Disney World wedding..
We had the same situation...we spent a TON of money to go to one of my FI friends Wedding a few years ago and now he isn't going to ours, my FI was really hurt by it, thought he was getting the run around from him..he would of been one of the groomsmen. We found out later the Friend and His Wife can't go because they are having trouble baby wise and they are spending a lot of money for IVF. You never know what peoples reasons are...some are legit some are bullshit...but you will drive yourself crazy if you take it all personal. Be happy for the people that are going and don't hold grudges for people that don't...you will be much happier in the end. And this is the curse of a destination wedding.
I think we can all relate to you on this one!
Like many of the girls here, most of our guests (all but 10, we needed 10 to secure the date), booked in the final days, with one family booking almost a week after the deposit date. To be honest, we told a white lie to our guests and told them the deposit was due 3 days before the actual deposit date, and most of them booked on or around the 7th, and they thought that the deposit was due on the 9th.
Now we are dealing with people being under the assumption that if they book the week before we leave in November, they can be apart of the wedding festivities....ummm no! Last night my FIs friend was talking about people booking last minute for a deal, and how they could just join in the wedding once they got there. What!? NO! It is a regular wedding people!!
It was a very frustrating and stressful time in the wedding process, that is for sure. However, like many have already said, try not to worry too much. Send your emails/texts and so on, and then just let it go. Like someone mentioned earlier, we decided that we were not going to hound people. They all knew what was going on, book or dont book, we are still getting married.
I told my guest the deposit was due on the 18th ...it was actually due on the 20th... I put a note in my info that said you had to book with our group to attend the wedding. We did have two couples book with a different carrier...but They were the first people to book their trip for our wedding and they saved 700! so I couldn't be mad. My cousin said he was going to get a last min deal and perhaps stay at a different hotel. I told him he couldn't attend the wedding if he wasn't a guest & No one is going to get a last min deal...that never happens!