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[veryvalentine]

Exactly.   I think it's going to keep us healthier, more positive and create a more positive vibe if we realize that there is so much good too. I'm really going to give this a try.  I know things are gonna suck a long the way, but I'm going to try to back it up with a  positive.  Either that or a shot of tequila.  ha ha. 

 

Last night I actually worked on a DIY project that I will share later on today expressing gratitude to our guests. 

Edited March 12, 2015 by veryvalentine

[TinkerSofi]

@@veryvalentine Yea.. she tried to cover it up by saying she didn't mean it in a negative way, but it was so clearly negative that I couldn't believe her. Finally after a few days she admitted that she felt that I was going to be too focused on my own wedding and that I won't be able to help her with hers. First of all, her wedding is almost a year after mine... November 2016.. and secondly, I was completely appauled at that selfish excuse for bad talking my wedding.

 

It was so unrepairable after all of that.. I was beyond disgusted.

That's such an awful excuse. It seems to me like the selfish one was her in this case, her wedding planning won't even really get rolling until after your wedding is done. Sounds like envy/jealousy to me, and no one needs any of that.

 

 

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[TinkerSofi]

You know our engagement has been so long! 2 years and counting because of some things that didn't go as planned we had to wait a whole other year. We also have a few friends who got engaged after us and got or are getting married before. I might make a joke to Juan but not that I go around criticizing them haha.

Have I been a bit jealous at times? I have to admit, sometimes, but not the envy kind of jealous. I think that Juan and have been ready to take the next step for a while and I couldn't help but to wonder how nice that would be, but not because I was angry at my friends for getting married before and I certainly didn't hold that against them. On the contrary I was happy for them, it's not a race. So I guess my feelings were more about Juan and I rather than about my friends getting married before haha, if that makes any sense. Therefore I still think it's not an excuse for your friend to act that way, she could have been a bit jealous but a good friend would never let that get in the way of feeling happy for the other person and being there for her.

 

 

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[calgarybride2015]

@@TinkerSofi

 

What you are saying makes absolute sense.

 

We have 2 couples that came to Mexico with us that went to Vegas on a whim this weekend. And then are joining us again in August!!!   Sure I sit here and think 'must be nice to travel all the time' but it doesn't go much farther than that. I think ' I WISH!" hahaha and am happy for them that they can do that.  Everyone has a different situation though.  They don't have kids, I have 2.  We can't travel that easy because of that responsibility. We also have a very short time frame to save up for our down payment for a house. We have to be out of our current rental in September but hope that we can maybe purchase in 3 months because the market is starting to become VERY favorable.

 

So everyone has a story and it's ok to think 'man I wish I had that' but you don't really mean it and you don't let it affect your communication and friendships with them.  When it does get in the way I honestly believe there is a lot more going on than meets the eye and it may be best to distance yourself from it.  If the friendship is meant to be, it will be be, but it's got to be mutual.

Edited March 15, 2015 by calgarybride2015