I feel your pain! It sounds to me like your FI is going through what mine did about 3 months out from the wedding. I think he was super overwhelmed and we were trying to do as much for our guests as we could, and ask very little of them since they made the commitment to attend. I think he felt like we were doing sooo much (and we were, as we should) that it kind of made him resentful that NO ONE was asking to help us. Not sure if that is the case with you both, but I could understand what he meant. People were asking US to do things for THEM, not the other way around (print tickets, research this, find out about that). When I finally pushed to get a direct answer about his GM gifts, he felt very nonchalant about it. Said he would figure it out and anything they get would be good enough.
Soooo (LOL) My FI is a very black and white person. He needs to see visuals and examples. I sat him down and explained how I felt about it and that we may very well be overwhelmed, but we asked these people to stand besides us on our big day. It means something, and they have made sacrifices to do so. I left it at that and the next day sent him a ton of emails about destination wedding etiquette in regards to gifts and examples of what people give.
That pretty much did it and he apologized for being so stubborn. He came up with some awesome ideas and shopped for most of the stuff on his own.
Maybe the stress is talking when he says what he has said about them and he just needs some time (or examples lol) to come around ?
Edited by MrsCtoB, 03 March 2015 - 02:02 PM.