Saying Yes To The Dress On Monday!

[veryvalentine]

The DRESS!!!!!!!!!

 

To be honest, the whole dress shopping experience process was a little difficult/sad for me.  My mother had passed away a few years ago and while I have grieved and gone through the healing process, I knew I would always be very sad about her absence if I ever were to get married.  I was never the kind of girl that thought about getting married, or envisioned what kind of dress I would wear so it was overwhelming to start looking.

 

I got engaged on Valentine's Day 2014 and I didn't start looking for dresses until September.  My wedding is June 20th, and I suppose I'm cutting it close.  I was told that in order to guarantee the arrival of my current #1 pick dress by April, I'd have to order this Monday.  So Monday it is!

 

Thankfully I have amazing friends, my sister and Mother-in-law who have been extremely supportive and have come with me to my appointments.  It certainly helped not to feel as sad that my mom isn't here for this epic occasion.

 

One of the dress fittings I attended was just myself and my sister, and we walked in, saw a dress, I tried it on, and there were tears....!!

I was soooo in love with it and so sure it was the one.  I decided to think on it...I think it's the one.  For some reason I feel like I could find something better.  I don't know if that's just normal and part of the process.

 

I will post a picture of #1 choice and some of the 2nd, 3rd and 4th choices.  Any feedback would be welcomed.

 

Is it normal to feel like this unsure?  It's crazy. lol  I do love my #1 but I still keep thinking about what else could be out there.

 

Here they are!

 

#1  fit and flare (david's bridal)

 

#2 Ballroom gown (kleinfeld's)

 

#3 A-line flar (DB)

 

#4  Fit and flare - cream (DB)

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Wafflesmom]

Hi @ I've also lost a parent and feel your pain. My dad died a while ago, when I was 6. Even though it was so long ago, it still makes me sad especially the thought of not being able to have the father/daughter dance Or him not being able to walk me down the aisle. I'll still have him with me though, I'm attaching a locket with his picture to my bouquet

 

Regarding your dress, I think you look beautiful in all of them though I do love you in both #1 and #2. I think it's perfectly normal to feel unsure of your dress, especially since we all want to be perfect on our wedding day. There's so many choices out there so it just gets so confusing! I say try on #1 again on Monday and see if you still feel the same as you did when you first try it on. Perhaps that will erase all the uncertainty in your mind.

[racht33]

@ Im so sorry about the loss of your mother. esp in a time like this. But  it seems you have great support from your family and your future family to be!!

 

Not to be completely sure seems to be a common thing with brides and their dress. It is such an important day you want everything to be so perfect! To be honest this is why I haven't even stepped foot into a bridal shop yet.I know I have some time but Im worried it will take me forever to just pick one. I cant even pick a resort UGHH lol

 

I think all of the dresses look great! You look beautiful in every single one! But my particular favorite is number 2!! It looks amazing on you!!!! the flowy look of the fabric at the bottem would look so amazing in pictures and videos blowing in the nice ocean breeze! I love the nice soft of bling right around the waste !! LOVE IT!! But you really need to go with your personal favorite and something you feel like a complete queen in!! Best of luck on your pick! You will look beautiful is which ever you select!!

[beckys98]

Hi @ - I am with you. My mom passed away almost exactly one year ago and my future mother-in-law and stepmom are both nice, not very motherly. I just went with my sister, best friend and my niece. I'm getting married in June and didn't start looking until January! I got a lot of eye rolls at the bridal shops...my toughest choice was deciding to spend over my budget to get the dress I wanted (I did).

 

I think you look especially stunning in #2! The lightness of the bottom is really beautiful and is perfectly balanced with the detail on the top. I also really like #1! I don't think you can go wrong

[calgarybride2015]

Hugs. I lost my mom 10 years ago and I feel your pain. I honored her on my bouquet with a bouquet charm (posted below). Just know she's looking down on you and smiling

 

I've already told you I love them all any will be 100% perfect. My fave on your is #2. It will come to you! It's always normal to second guess as I truly believe you can always find another love - for anything.

 

You should have heard my reasoning when I bought lol I think I also put it on 5 times in that appt to ensure it was what I wanted lol. I still think about my other love but I don't regret the one I bought for a minute.

 

 

 

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[acw271011]

I know where you're coming from. I lost my mom when I was 15 way back in 1973, and on Valentine's day. I've spent more of my life without her than I had with her. Yeah, I'm dating myself here lol But honouring her is a wonderful way to have her with you. At my age, and after 42 years now, I can think of her with quiet happiness. 

 

I'll agree with all of the other ladies and tell you that you look beautiful in all of them but my vote goes with #1 and #4. I like them because they're slimming and elegant. The ball gown is elegant too, but for a destination wedding 1 and 4 get my vote.

 

Good luck! Let us know what you pick!

[ashhtayy]

@ so sorry about the loss of your mother - I can't imagine how much harder this process would be with someone so important missing. Thank goodness you have a great support system in your other family members; that is something to be truly grateful for!

 

I haven't dress shopped so I can't share how I felt but with my best friends dress, I can tell you she was scared because she didn't cry, felt she didn't have that "moment". We all cried, we knew it was her dress. She picked it and today she is in love with it.

 

My vote, although I suggest you trust your instinct and go with something that matches your DW vision, is #1 or #2. My second thought, based on what I read on here, is sometimes the most expensive dress, ends up not being worth it. I've read some brides spend a fortune and wish they just wore their cheaper TTD. I assume if #1 is DB and #2 is kleinfelds and cost is a factor, go with #1. If cost isn't s factor, I'm so jealous

 

Best of luck. You'll make a great choice! Let us know what you pick!

[TinkerSofi]

Please let us know what you picked!

[hellosassypants]

*hugs* I'm so happy you have your sister, your friends and your MIL to lean on. You looked gorgeous in ALL the dresses. I am loving dress #2 and #3. I look forward to hearing what dress you do decide to choose. 

[malyna]

#1!

 

 

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