Isn't that always the case? You go and do something for someone and it ends up back firing! Chester and I were also bending over backward to try to accomodate some guests as well. Once we got to the deadline date I told them that if their gf's don't put deposits, they will have to figure out their own arrangement. I feel for you and Juan and I really hope that it works out for you! I really can't stand some of the small situations that turn into drama when it comes to wedding planning. We haven't had very many yet, but I can see some situations that may arise in the future and i'm hoping for the best. Sending good vibes your way!!
Oh and to some degree, my fiance can also relate to Juan with 'being done' with a few people. Not because they simply couldn't make it, but more of how it got to that point. There was one of his close friends that Chester travelled to their DW and was their best friend and they backed out on Chester at the last minute when it was the last week of deposits.