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Tinkersofi's Planning Thread - Azul Fives August 13, 2015

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Isn't that always the case? You go and do something for someone and it ends up back firing! Chester and I were also bending over backward to try to accomodate some guests as well. Once we got to the deadline date I told them that if their gf's don't put deposits, they will have to figure out their own arrangement. I feel for you and Juan and I really hope that it works out for you! I really can't stand some of the small situations that turn into drama when it comes to wedding planning. We haven't had very many yet, but I can see some situations that may arise in the future and i'm hoping for the best. Sending good vibes your way!!


Oh and to some degree, my fiance can also relate to Juan with 'being done' with a few people. Not because they simply couldn't make it, but more of how it got to that point. There was one of his close friends that Chester travelled to their DW and was their best friend and they backed out on Chester at the last minute when it was the last week of deposits.

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Oh my!!! The never ending drama of these boys!! Sometimes I wonder if it's an age thing -- how old are they?

I feel for you guys and good for Juan to put his foot down. At some point enough is enough.

 

Never stops amazing the drama weddings create!

 

 

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Oh my!!! The never ending drama of these boys!! Sometimes I wonder if it's an age thing -- how old are they?

I feel for you guys and good for Juan to put his foot down. At some point enough is enough.

 

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I know! You'd think the drama is coming from the girls but my friends have been amazing throughout the process, and even our mutual friends. It could be age, this guy is 30 going on 20 and she's 20 hahah. I really think (and like to think) that they are completely oblivious as to how much planning and coordination a wedding takes. 

 

On kind of a related note, I need your guys' opinion. Our final payment is due on June 14 and we have a family who last June said they would come but would wait to book and haven't mentioned anything since. We sent them a message on Sunday asking them if they were still thinking of coming and letting them know that we got that deal on packages where they can still book at the same price we had been quoted originally. They haven't replied yet, so I was wondering if it would be too pushy if I give them a call at the end of the week and ask? of course if they haven't replied by then. I mean maybe they're still thinking about it? I don't know. i don't want to be on their face but I need to finish planning! (the planner needs to plan! haha)

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I know! You'd think the drama is coming from the girls but my friends have been amazing throughout the process, and even our mutual friends. It could be age, this guy is 30 going on 20 and she's 20 hahah. I really think (and like to think) that they are completely oblivious as to how much planning and coordination a wedding takes.

 

On kind of a related note, I need your guys' opinion. Our final payment is due on June 14 and we have a family who last June said they would come but would wait to book and haven't mentioned anything since. We sent them a message on Sunday asking them if they were still thinking of coming and letting them know that we got that deal on packages where they can still book at the same price we had been quoted originally. They haven't replied yet, so I was wondering if it would be too pushy if I give them a call at the end of the week and ask? of course if they haven't replied by then. I mean maybe they're still thinking about it? I don't know. i don't want to be on their face but I need to finish planning! (the planner needs to plan! haha)

When you emailed them Sunday did you tell them there was a deadline for numbers to the resort? Or was it more casual?

 

 

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@@TinkerSofi I'm so sorry that you guys have to deal with the drama especially when you guys have been so accommodating for your guests and trying to make it work for everyone. I hope that everything works out in the end. "30 going on 20" hahaha - I agree people really take it for granted all the work involved that goes into arranging for a DW especially. My fiancé's biological father still hasn't booked even though he's been ready to book for months and has been talking with my TA. He keeps saying "she hasn't called me" when in fact my TA is waiting on information from him like his passport info and credit card LOL! I have to laugh because it's so frustrating…otherwise I wouldn't be able to handle it. You know those people are the ones that will complain about prices going up even though you've warned them about it when they didn't book on time. 

 

As for the last minute bookers - I think it's totally fine to give them a gentle call at the end of the week to check in, just a friendly "just wondering if you got my message"…but then again that's the planner in me too! LOL! 

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When you emailed them Sunday did you tell them there was a deadline for numbers to the resort? Or was it more casual?

 

 

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I don't know. I left it up to Juan but he probably didn't tell them. We're telling people the first week of May is our cut off but I don't know if he actually told them haha. I'll ask him tonight when I talk to him again :)

 

 

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@@TinkerSofi I'm so sorry that you guys have to deal with the drama especially when you guys have been so accommodating for your guests and trying to make it work for everyone. I hope that everything works out in the end. "30 going on 20" hahaha - I agree people really take it for granted all the work involved that goes into arranging for a DW especially. My fiancé's biological father still hasn't booked even though he's been ready to book for months and has been talking with my TA. He keeps saying "she hasn't called me" when in fact my TA is waiting on information from him like his passport info and credit card LOL! I have to laugh because it's so frustrating…otherwise I wouldn't be able to handle it. You know those people are the ones that will complain about prices going up even though you've warned them about it when they didn't book on time.

 

As for the last minute bookers - I think it's totally fine to give them a gentle call at the end of the week to check in, just a friendly "just wondering if you got my message"…but then again that's the planner in me too! LOL!

Haha yeah some people are just frustrating!

I really don't think it's only for DW, I'm sure people with local weddings have to deal with some shenanigans like this too. I'm glad this is really the only drama going on. I really can't complain otherwise :)

 

 

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If you aren't sure I'd call them and just say 'we hate to pry but our absolute deadline is may 5 and didn't want you to miss out as we'd love you to be there'.

 

 

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If you aren't sure I'd call them and just say 'we hate to pry but our absolute deadline is may 5 and didn't want you to miss out as we'd love you to be there'.

 

 

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great idea! You always have great ideas!! 

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great idea! You always have great ideas!!

I try. Just excuse that run on sentence lol!!! You got my point though :)

 

 

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AWww, I'm so sorry to hear about this pre-wedding drama. 

 

It's sooo true though, people just don't get it.  Like they don't and I don't know if there's anything we can do about it.  Our wedding mantra right now is, "our day, their problem"  so when someone has an issue and it's outside our scope to handle, and it's basically just an annoying complaint, we will say to ourselves, "our day, their problem'. 

 

His friend should have made his own accommodations to find a roommate or tried to get his gf to come.  It's a lot of back and forth.  I mean, your wedding is in August which is still a lot of time and you may find that some of his friends decide to come last minute, you never know.

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