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#731 pjay

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Posted 12 August 2015 - 06:36 AM

@deecol thanks girl! You're too sweet. Hopefully we can meet in September or October!! Sad you can't make it Friday.

 

You're so right though.. We just have to focus on us. I guess that's why we decided to move the date.. we didn't want to have ill feelings on our own date if she had tied the knot a few days before us. We have decided to just not care when she does it now and do ours in our own private time with my parents. We don't want anymore drama and we don't want negativity anymore so we decided to just 'be the bigger person' and move on from it. I put my deposit down with our officiant last night and i'm really excited.. i've already started planning our little intimate ceremony. We are surprising my parents with it too and doing it in their back yard.

 

She's definitely marrying for the wrong reasons from what I can see as an outside perspective. She has never told me "i'm marrying because I love him and want to spend my life with him".. it's always been excuses like "If we want to live together, we need to be married". 


 

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#732 deecol

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Posted 12 August 2015 - 06:44 AM

@perianjay I know :(  I'm so sad I can't be there on Friday!!!  I keep thinking about it.  Next week I'll throw out some September/October dates and hopefully the ladies are up for it, even if no one is really available I would love to meet up with you for a coffee/drink - let me know when you know the dates of your shower, bachelorette etc so we avoid those dates.

 

Your new ceremony idea sounds so perfect :)  When have you decided to move the date to?

 

It's so sad, but its reality that some people get married just to get married.  This sounds awful but even my own Mom told me that she married my Dad because she liked him enough, wanted to have kids and her parents wouldn't let her move out unless she was married.  They're obviously divorced now but it really makes you realize how some people think, and it personally makes me feel so incredibly happy, blessed and lucky to have met the one and am marrying him because we both want to have that commitment to each other, not because we feel we have to due to age, family pressure, society etc... 


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#733 pjay

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Posted 12 August 2015 - 07:14 AM

@deecol Yes!! Definitely Even if a meetup doesn't work out for a second time, i'm totally down to go out for a drink and meet up! :)

 

We are actually moving the date to September 12th now (and no not to beat her lol), but because we decided it would be nice to do it outside in the summertime and hopefully some nice weather. That's the one thing I was dreading about November.. it wasn't going to be warm still. Also, our officiant had pretty limited availability so he gave us a few dates to pick from and that one worked out best with my parent's being home that weekend.

 

I totally agree with you. I was actually in a long term relationship before this one and I know what it feels like to want to 'settle' when it may not be right. I was with him for 6 years and bought a house with him.. I knew in my heart that it wasn't right and so I walked away from it. I'm still proud of myself today for what I did because it took so much courage to leave something that wasn't right. Now after going through that and meeting Chester I know that it's so right and that he's who i'm meant to marry. I've never been so happy before and everyone in my life notices and always tells me. When you're truly in love people can see it radiate from you.. it's one of a kind. I'm so happy i'm going to marry my best friend.


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#734 deecol

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Posted 12 August 2015 - 07:19 AM

@perianjay September 12th - one month today!  Amazing :)  Glad it will still be somewhat warm for you guys :)

 

Okay perfect, I'll throw out some dates in the thread next week and we'll go from there.  Can't wait to meet some of you ladies in person.  You feel like real friends to me, so supportive and I'm so grateful.

 

You are so tough!  It takes a strong person to walk away from a situation like that.  I'm so happy for you and so happy that your new legal ceremony date has worked out for the better.  Then you get to focus on the awesome week ahead to celebrate with the people that love you guys most and see how much love there is between you :)


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#735 pjay

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Posted 12 August 2015 - 07:35 AM

@deecol Yes, throw some dates out. Hopefully I can make it. I know my bachelorette is probably in one of the last weekends of September, but not sure which one because apparently it's a surprise! I agree with you.. so many amazing people on this forum..i'm so grateful for friendships made here.


Ps. I feel like this is my wedding theme song now. haha.. maybe i'm feeling pessimistic today.

 

 

 

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#736 calgarybride2015

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Posted 12 August 2015 - 07:37 AM

I can totally relate. I left my kid's dad after 8 or 9 years and it was one of the hardest things I did!! After all the doozies I met I knew when I met Shawn (and got to know him) he was who I had been waiting for!!!

That's awesome you changed your date to a warmer time. Having it outside will be beautiful. And yes it's one month today. Yay :) sometimes things work out for the better even when they cause so much hurt.


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#737 snswedding2016

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Posted 12 August 2015 - 07:38 AM

@perianjay your new legal ceremony date and plan sound perfect! I totally get the warmer weather thing...right now ours is planned for December in Toronto. It's going to be so cold! oh well haha. It's coming up so soon now!! Exciting!

 

@deecol I'm up for another meet up too. I'm gone the last weekend of Sept but other than that I'm pretty clear. Hopefully we can find another date that works for a bunch of people. :)


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#738 pjay

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Posted 12 August 2015 - 07:41 AM

@calgarybride2015 I respect that so much and I bet you're so much stronger because of that too. I felt so proud for having courage.. not a lot of people can muster the courage to make such a drastic change like that, but your own happiness is SO important. That's the biggest lesson i've learned.. you can't fake being happy for the rest of your life, that's not the way to live. 

 

I'm happy about the new date.. I'm happy we can enjoy it with (hopefully) sunshine and warm weather.


@snswedding2016 I know! haha I actually wouldn't have HATED the cold, but I just pictured our legal wedding here being a bit warmer and us being able to take a few pictures outside.. also I wanna wear a cute summery dress. haha


 

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#739 deecol

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Posted 12 August 2015 - 07:54 AM

@perianjay Hilarious!!! Make sure that song is requested at your bachelorette lol!

 

@snswedding2016 That's awesome!  Maybe I'll throw out some dates in early Oct then?  Gives a bit of a space between the last meet-up :)



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#740 acw271011

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Posted 12 August 2015 - 03:38 PM

how do we end up allowing other people to do things to our lives with their drama? I'm really sorry that you and Chester feel you need to change your date. But if the two of you feel that's the best decision for you, then you'll absolutely get the support here without question. It just makes me sad for you.

But on a brighter note as the other ladies have said September should be pretty for weather so that's good! It will be beautiful!!

Leaving a relationship that's toxic is hard. Been there done that and it was a long marriage that I walked away from. It's unfortunate that your friend can't realize that she's marrying for the wrong reasons. That usually ends in heartache. But its always wearing rose coloured glasses even if the reasons are wrong , thinking the other person will change somehow or that it will make that person happier. Life has a way of biting you in the butt though. I hope it works out for her!

The most important thing is that you're getting your legal ceremony when you want it and without the drama! Happy that it worked out how you wanted and needed it to!!

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