@deecol thanks girl! You're too sweet. Hopefully we can meet in September or October!! Sad you can't make it Friday.
You're so right though.. We just have to focus on us. I guess that's why we decided to move the date.. we didn't want to have ill feelings on our own date if she had tied the knot a few days before us. We have decided to just not care when she does it now and do ours in our own private time with my parents. We don't want anymore drama and we don't want negativity anymore so we decided to just 'be the bigger person' and move on from it. I put my deposit down with our officiant last night and i'm really excited.. i've already started planning our little intimate ceremony. We are surprising my parents with it too and doing it in their back yard.
She's definitely marrying for the wrong reasons from what I can see as an outside perspective. She has never told me "i'm marrying because I love him and want to spend my life with him".. it's always been excuses like "If we want to live together, we need to be married".