There's some awkwardness surrounding my shower and I don't know how to handle.... any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
So my best friend was planning a surprise shower for me. It's no longer a surprise because FI slipped but that's another story. She was planning it with the help of another friend, and left our parents out of it. She wanted to plan it herself. My mom passed away, but FI's mom wanted to get involved, so she reached out to my friend. My friend was planning a small-ish shower at her house which I liked. FI's mom looked at the guest list and said she wanted to add a couple of people. She also suggested moving it to a catering hall (not my thing) and said she'd pay for the entire thing. My friend told her I don't like the catering hall she was suggesting. FI's mom doesn't want to step on my friend's toes, but now everyone is in an awkward spot. There's only so much push back my friend can give without being disrespectful and i am not supposed to get involved. all i can do is provide suggestions on how my friend can respond to FI's mom. But like I said, my friend is in a tough spot now... how does this get handled??