Registry - Interesting Question

[nadiakat17]

I agree, I don't think putting it on an invite is the right way to go but that being said I don't feel bad about a shower or registry. I put the info on my website and anyone who is internet saavy can google and find our registry. I'm sure people asked my family and MOH. I wanted a full wedding experience. My shower was amazing, if only for the fact our moms had a great time doing it, it had a lot of great beach decor and delicious food, and it was so humbling to have so many people who cared about us come, plus my FIs grandma and aunts who can't make the wedding. It was a chance to introduce everyone and get pumped for the wedding. Everyone was too generous with gifts and we will remember our wedding with these items for years to come. After the shower our immediate families and MOH went out to a nice tapas dinner ( where I randomly saw the woman who helped me into my current career and telling her what I've accomplished was the icing on the cake of the night) I get a warm fuzzy feeling thinking about my shower experience and can't wait for the wedding.

[TammyWright]

Congrats on the dw!  We opted for a dw because we knew our at home wedding would be too large.

 

yes!  def. put your registry on your invite or STD.  those that do not want to get a gift, will not but it makes it much easier for those that do want to get you something.

[beckys98]

We decided not to do a registry because we have said gifts are not expected and we want our guests to take that seriously. I think if you say "no gifts" but you post a registry, people will give a gift anyway because they don't want to be the one jerk who doesn't! At least I know that would be the case for our guests, and for me if I were a guest. 

 

That said, I think the gift/shower decision is a personal one and there is nothing wrong with doing it! My sister had a destination wedding and did a shower/registry and there was no issue. I just think saying "no gifts" and registering can be a little confusing. 

[SusanMarie813]

i think we are going to put it on one of the pages of the invitation.. "booking info" and just put the info about the registry.  We come from a very Italian family they are going to get gifts no matter what we say.  Thank you all for the input.  

[jeffandrobyn]

@@SusanMarie813

 

I don't think I'd put where you're registered at on the invitation, but if you're making a website, that's a great place to add it. Then you can add your website to the invitation. Also tell your immediate family where you're registered and say you're telling them 'in case they get asked.' 

[JJCB0418]

I really didn't want to do a registry, because I didn't want people to think we are expecting gifts.  I also told my family I didn't want a shower, but that didn't go over well with my mom and sisters (we are a party throwing kind of family so that was taking fun away from them).  So I said a shower without gifts and they looked at me like I was crazy.  They all said that gifts come with a wedding, no matter where you have it.  My fiance was also all about getting gifts so he wanted to register.  I folded and when we went to register I cried in the store, we had to leave and try again another day (after a few mimosas).  I did not put it on my STD, invite or website and when people ask I tell them we aren't requesting anything, but for them to come (I'm sure my fiance isn't saying the same though)!

[pykx82]

i think we are going to put it on one of the pages of the invitation.. "booking info" and just put the info about the registry.  We come from a very Italian family they are going to get gifts no matter what we say.  Thank you all for the input.  

 

I think a small note somewhere on the invite is totally fine.  I've received numerous invitations that say something like "presentation preferred" or the like, so I don't see a problem with a note along the lines "gifts aren't necessary, but if you insist, we're registered here".  This will also be my second marriage so we've been spreading the "no gifts" message for a while, but like your family, most of mine are scoffing at the idea of not getting us something so I'll likely be in the same boat as you.