I just picked up reading this tread and all I can say is WOW! I can't believe the turn it took, but am pleased that it made you think about your situation better @JennyZ!!
That MIL seems to have forgotten the whole point of her sons wedding....to watch her son get married! All she seemed concerned about is how much of an inconvenience it is for them. She also seems to be in the opinion that her future DIL is making all the decisions....while that is mostly true for weddings, I never made a decision without consulting my husband first. Even if I knew he answer would be "Do/get whatever you want" I would still make the point of asking or showing him so he knew what was going on. I'm sure this bride also did the same, and if her husband really had an issue with the location of the wedding he would have said something.
We just got back from our wedding about 2 weeks ago, and to be honest we didn't think about the people who didn't attend. Well, we did think of one groomsman who had to back out that it was probably for the best he didn't come as he is pretty intolerant of other people and different cultures, so it was for the best that we didn't have to deal with that! My husband and more family attend than from my side (he had about 10 and I had 7) and the only friends that attended were my MOH and her boyfriend. I can feel for your FI not having many relatives attending, but if they clearly don't want to be there they won't be any fun to be around!!
One last thing, when we first told our parents about having a destination wedding they weren't thrilled with the idea. If they did grumble about it no one said anything to us about it. I think my parents really changed their tune after dealing with my sister's wedding in September and all the stress and tears that it caused Turns out all of our guests have the times of their lives and are already planning their trip back next year! Now I can foresee a future awkward situation about having to pick which family to go on vacation with :S
Edited by kellymiller, 30 March 2015 - 04:41 PM.