As I mentioned on one of your last posts, we're of pretty similar ages AND I'm from the midwest, so we're in pretty similar situations!
My whole life my parents told me and my brother that they would pay for our education, but we'd be paying for our own weddings, because that's what their parents did for them, which is more than fair. BUT, I ended up going to college with a full ride, so my parents paid virtually nothing out of pocket. I was completely planning on paying for our wedding myself (I have a good job and no debt), and wasn't even considering anything otherwise as we began booking and planning, but then my parents came to talk to me and said that they wanted to pay for it since they didn't have to pay for my schooling. So, they're paying, not so much out of "tradition" but almost as a reward for my hard work.
That being said, they're footing the bill at the resort, but I'm paying for everything else myself (decorations, welcome bags, photographer, DJ, the at home reception, invitations, etc.) I would just feel strange asking for money for those types of things, and I like being in control over the little extras I want to get. People have talked a lot about the "control" issue, and I can definitely see why, but my parents' are so laid back that they couldn't really care less how I do any of it--I have to drag my mom into help planning as it is. If if were up to them they'd show up and have everything be a surprise!
A lot of people are getting married a little later when their careers have already been established, so parents paying then seems a little unnecessary, so I guess it's more of a question for couples closer to our age. Overall, I don't think there's really a "norm" anymore as far as parents' paying. Some do and some don't, and I don't think it's strange either way.
Edited by rachelia160, 12 December 2014 - 05:15 AM.