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#1 cfinkenbine

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Posted 05 October 2014 - 07:53 PM

I am 22 (will be 23 in two days, eeeek!) and my fiancé is 22. We decided on a DW because really it saves ALOT of money. (Not including the cost of our stay at our resort, our wedding should cost between 10-15k.) I was just wondering for everyone else on here who is having a DW, who is footing the bill? The reason I ask is, as an only child with parents who make a good amount of money…they are hardly helping pay for any of the wedding. I am grateful for any financial assistance so I do not complain, I work hard for what I want and can pay my own way if need be. However, many of our close friends and family who have asked us if we are paying for our own wedding (Which we are paying for almost all of it), are SHOCKED that my parents are not helping out hardly at all. Is it still typical for the brides parents to pay for a wedding? I hope this question does not come off as tacky asking about financials…but I am very curious to know if anyone else is in the same situation. We are both fairly young still, and while we both have graduated college, I would think being fairly new in the career world my parents would have helped us more. :/ sigh.

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#2 calgarybride2015

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Posted 05 October 2014 - 08:04 PM

We are paying for our own. No one has offered to help and we never even considered asking. I don't fully understand the tradition behind it so I figure if I want it, I save for it. Of course if they offered I wouldn't say no. The fact it's a destination wedding I am just happy people can afford to come. That said, my dad graciously offered to pay for our honeymoon. At first he offered our second week in Mexico but we can't make it work so he said we can use it for wherever we want. We have no idea the price amount.

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#3 cfinkenbine

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Posted 05 October 2014 - 08:27 PM

That is very nice of him!! Yeah I was just wanting to see if anyone is in the same boat as me. 

#4 TinkerSofi

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Posted 05 October 2014 - 08:33 PM

I'm 26 and my dad is helping us out with a few things like the food and the photographer. I don't know if this is necessarily due to tradition but he just wanted to help us out. We definitely didn't take that into account when planning everything so we budgeted things as if we were paying, any help after that is really appreciated but not expected.

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#5 cfinkenbine

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Posted 05 October 2014 - 08:40 PM

We budgeted for what we can afford also. In the end, the extra money will probably be helping with any expenses we haven't accounted for or had forgotten.

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    Posted 06 October 2014 - 06:30 AM

    Great topic brides :) we've also had some wedding couples who include some of their expenses like photography as part of their bridal registry items. That way their guests can choose to contribute to some of the wedding couple's expenses too, if they wish...very creative and helpful :)


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    #7 puravida2015

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    Posted 06 October 2014 - 07:35 AM

    We're paying for it ourselves. We're also paying for our parents to come as our gift to them.  Like @calgarybride2015, we never really considered to asking and I don't understand that tradition. But yes, it's customary that the brides family pays but I'm an only child too and my mom has paid double her share for me so that's my reason for gifting her a trip.

    #8 Maggietron

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    Posted 06 October 2014 - 10:03 AM

    We are paying for it ourselves. We're in our (EARLY!) thirties, his parents are retired and mine are still recovering from a costly divorce, but even if they weren't, we wouldn't expect anything from them. We're having a wedding that is well below what we could afford (our current expenses are showing at under $3000, not including dress, flight and hotel). We're even paying for at least some of our bridal party's attire and going to work with the travel agent to see if there are any perks that can be applied to those of our guests who are less financially secure. 


    I don't think I know anyone who has had the bride's family pay for their wedding, but it might be regional/cultural, I also have only met a couple of people whose family paid for their school as well. 

    #9 cfinkenbine

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    Posted 06 October 2014 - 10:55 AM

    I feel a lot better knowing most people on here are paying for their own wedding like myself. We are from the midwest, and typically around here the brides parents pay for most of the wedding expenses.

    #10 beckys98

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    Posted 06 October 2014 - 02:43 PM

    I'm from the Midwest as well! We are paying for our wedding entirely, but we are in our early 30s and have also planned a wedding we can afford to pay cash for. When my sister got married (also a DW) my dad paid for a welcome reception, which I would guess was around $500. Still a very nice gesture and not expected.


    Of my friends who have gotten married - it has been a mixed bag on who paid. My friends whose parents paid often wished they hadn't - because you lose some control over your decisions. One of my friends had very little say in the guest list because her future in-laws were paying - so she had a bunch of their friends there she didn't even know. I am very independent and don't like being told what to do! My money, my decisions :) I prefer it that way!

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