Cancelling Bridesmaids?

[Maggietron]

I ordered a convertible dress from Etsy, It is supposed to be here next week, but now I'm worrying that it won't arrive before I go on vacation next sat, and I won't get to see it til the end of Sept! My plan is to try it on myself and see what I think, and if I like it I'll ship it to my bridesmaids to try (one size fits all) and if they don't like it, they are responsible for finding their own dresses in the same colour.

[lydiasusi]

So I could just be having an ultra pissy day, but my bridesmaid has done f-all to help me out. I'm getting married in 2 months and still don't have dresses. They have been difficult when it comes to agreeing on styles, and I have looked everywhere I can possibly think and have ordered online (I had to return them) and now feel like this is the biggest, most unnecessary stress. I'm so over looking, and frankly, sort if feel like I just want to tell them I don't want bridesmaids anymore. Is that totally bitchy of me?

 

 

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Money is tight these days, and lets face it, bridesmaids dresses are really, really, really ugly and expensive.  

 

I think it's a great idea to pick a color you want them to wear... blue, pink, red whatever, and just tell them to buy their own dress wherever they want in the shade that you want.  Compromise.   I think it makes it better, since they get to pick a shade that works great with their own skin, as well as a dress that compliments their body, rather than picking one dress, that someone may look great in, and makes another girl feel like she wasted money on a dress that makes her look frumpy.

 

I was in a wedding where the Bride wanted us to wear shades of off-white/ivory and it worked amazing.  We picked out our own dresses.

 

I was in another wedding where the Bride picked a specific blue, but we all got to get our own style of dress that we felt prettiest in.

 

I personally, will not be having bridesmaids.  I think some people think it's an obligation that they really don't want to commit to, and I can understand that.  I believe that just having my girlfriends make the trip to Mexico is a huge honor in itself, I don't want to infringe more stuff on them.

 

Good luck in whatever your end choice may be. 

[chelseapaige37]

My sister/bridemaid found dresses last night. They appear to work and I'm just waiting for them to come in the mail. Best part? $40! But my one sister is already complaining. I'm about to tell her to forget about even wearing a dress. What is with bridesmaids? Stop making this harder, when you are supposed to be helping! I'm going to be such a better bridesmaid in the future.

 

 

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