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@@hyoungquist That is so frustrating!

 

My fiancé has said this has happened often in past DWs he went to and the uninvited guests would often go on the beach to watch from a distance or just hangout and crash the reception after everyone has eaten their dinner. Not sure I would want that! I know since I have offered plus ones, there will be many people I do not know at my wedding (including many of my fiancé's friends (there are just TOO many!). For some of the random plus ones, part of me wouldn't mind them at the reception but I don't care to have them at my ceremony. But I guess there's really no way of excluding some guests and not others so I will just have to deal with this and have a good time. As long as the front areas for specifically for the close family/friends and the others can sit everywhere else. 

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@@Lia33 I agree. As long as my family is where I want them to be I guess it would be ok. Also, I do have a feeling that if they do come and aren't invited to the wedding, my future SIS would tell them to come crash the reception. I guess as long as everyone is having fun it isn't the end of the world...

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Unfortunately when you give someone a plus one you have to be prepared that you won't know them!

 

Make sure that you have ushers for the first rows or signs. I think most people should know they are for family but some people aren't so smart. The groomsmen are our ushers.

 

 

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oh my goodness! things really have changed! I'm very happy I'm not in this type of situation but I have a couple of strictly curiousity questions:

 

how can you not know someone's plus one? do people really invite everyone to the DW? or does it only depend on whether you're having an AHR or not? If you're having an AHR, wouldn't you set people aside to be invited to that rather than the actual wedding if it's people you don't see very often, or friends of your parents that they want to invite?

 

Sorry - I'm outta the loop on this stuff..... Just very surprised at some of what I'm reading.....

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We aren't having an AHR, but the issue is more that people will be coming to Jamaica as their vacation so if they want to bring someone they are dating then they can do so. Plus all rates are based on double occupancy so it is a lot cheaper per person if they have 2 people per room. Not all of our friends/family live by us so it is possible they could be dating someone we haven't met yet. I'm not excited about having random dates there that I may never see again, but it is what it is!

 

Our invite list is about 80, or 120 including plus 1s.

 

oh my goodness! things really have changed! I'm very happy I'm not in this type of situation but I have a couple of strictly curiousity questions:

 

how can you not know someone's plus one? do people really invite everyone to the DW? or does it only depend on whether you're having an AHR or not? If you're having an AHR, wouldn't you set people aside to be invited to that rather than the actual wedding if it's people you don't see very often, or friends of your parents that they want to invite?

 

Sorry - I'm outta the loop on this stuff..... Just very surprised at some of what I'm reading.....

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This is an interesting situation.  Hmm.. If they are making a vacation out of it, that's great!  But you really shouldn't feel obligated to extend an invite to people you weren't intending on inviting.  


I think plus ones and then inviting other family are two different things.  I expect that my guest list will increase because of plus ones.  But I hadn't thought about if people bring others people as well as part of their vacation.  As I said before.  This is an interesting one. 

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This same situation happened to me.  A strange name was booked with our travel agent and my mom's aunt invited another couple to go on the vacation with them.  So they booked through our agent and attached themselves to our wedding.  No big deal because it goes towards our free rooms, but I also don't want 2 people I do not know attending my wedding.  My mom said that they may expect to come to the wedding because most people think all inclusive and think that we don't pay per person for food and drink at a reception.  I have talked to my aunt and explained that I am having a destination wedding because I want a private time with my closest family and friends and they totally understood.

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oh my goodness! things really have changed! I'm very happy I'm not in this type of situation but I have a couple of strictly curiousity questions:

 

how can you not know someone's plus one? do people really invite everyone to the DW? or does it only depend on whether you're having an AHR or not? If you're having an AHR, wouldn't you set people aside to be invited to that rather than the actual wedding if it's people you don't see very often, or friends of your parents that they want to invite?

 

Sorry - I'm outta the loop on this stuff..... Just very surprised at some of what I'm reading.....

Tonnes of reasons you may not know someone's plus one. My be a friend or relative who lives at a distance and you've never met them. Also I don't hang out with all my friend's friends so if it's one I never met at a birthday or what have you. Just have to trust their judgement.

 

I've never met my sisters boyfriend and he's coming. Also never met a lot of my fiance's side as they live in Ontario. I've only met his immediate family.

 

I'm not having an AHR but I invites 60 ish people. 41 are booked so far. I could have easily invited 200-250 people.

 

 

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This same situation happened to me. A strange name was booked with our travel agent and my mom's aunt invited another couple to go on the vacation with them. So they booked through our agent and attached themselves to our wedding. No big deal because it goes towards our free rooms, but I also don't want 2 people I do not know attending my wedding. My mom said that they may expect to come to the wedding because most people think all inclusive and think that we don't pay per person for food and drink at a reception. I have talked to my aunt and explained that I am having a destination wedding because I want a private time with my closest family and friends and they totally understood.

I don't like them using your reserved rooms and not asking! I haven't decided yet but I'm sure I will extend the invite. They know what our cost is and want to pay us but how rude is that to accept? I never ever would.

They don't care either way either it's more my fiance's guilt he's taken on himself.

 

 

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Yeah I was quite surprised when I saw someone else registered under our Travel Agent room block.  Do you think I need to provide them with a welcome bag?  I wasn't going to, but I feel like maybe I should.  I have never met the couple.

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Yeah I was quite surprised when I saw someone else registered under our Travel Agent room block. Do you think I need to provide them with a welcome bag? I wasn't going to, but I feel like maybe I should. I have never met the couple.

Unless you extend the invite for them to join you at your wedding, absolutely not!!!!!!!

And even then I think that's your call to make. You could just give them a favor if you are doing both.

 

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