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We weren't planning on having anyone up there at all but my FFIL told our niece and nephew they were in the wedding so now I have a flower girl and FI has a best man who idolizes him lol

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It's all a personal preference. I'm just having a maid of honor, best man, flower girl, and ring bearer and this was a best, easiest decision for my fiancé and I!

I agree.  It's whatever you'd like. I too considered not having a bridal party at all because I was concerned about the added costs to our bridal party.   

 

Ultimately we had to remind ourselves that this is our once in a lifetime wedding and we most certainly wanted our bridal party at our sides. :)  And after speaking with everyone, they were genuinely excited to be a part of our day.  We will try to cover as much as possible - hair/makeup, accessories, etc.

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I'm having issues in my selection but haven't thought about no BM - I guess I always wanted to have a fun day with my girls before getting married!!!

 

I have issues with my sister (a whole other thread) and haven't decided who will stand with me. Its between 2 and 3 girls right now.  But I have already decided that I do want most of my friends to come by and do their hair and make up and have a drink with me before I put my dress on, and then have my family, BMs there when I do put my dress on and go. 

 

I mean, its maybe an hour out of the day the BMs are with me when no one else is.  And I want those private moments full of support and reassurance (because come on, we will all need to be reassured that we aren't bulging in our dress or something!).  I just want those girls that I know, 100%, will be making me laugh and giggle before I head out.

 

But at the end of it all - you can have those things without a bridal party so you have to do what you feel!

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@@KAT2015 I hink my besties would still come get ready with me. Actually, I know they would. So, I'm not so concerned about that.

 

I was super concerned about them having hurt feelings, but after a heart to heart on vacation with one of my besties (after I started this thread), she realized my concern for all of them. But she basically said, they would make it work.

 

So... still up in the air. I got some time.

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All my close friends are coming to our wedding but I didn't pick any bridesmaids, just my sister who I bought the dress for. Other than that I told the girls who were closest to help out with things here and there. they all seem to be okay with it.

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Is anyone not doing a bridal party?

 

Don't get me wrong, I have a group of besties, but I just feel like it's unfair to ask them to not only come to my DW, pay for their flights accommodations, etc AND also pay for their dresses, shoes, etc.

 

I'm having a hard time because I mentioned this in passing and my friends kind of got upset that I would not have a bridal party.

 

The man has mixed feelings about it as well, for similar reasons.

It's about you and your fiance.

 

Not about your friends getting a photo opp at the front.

 

If they're upset, they're not your friends.

 

Sorry :/ 

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@@lydiasusi I know the opportunity for a photo op is just about the last thing on their minds. I know that's not why they are upset or disappointed.

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We decided not to have a bridal party for similar reasons already mentioned. We had a few people inquire about why they hadn't been asked to participate a few months ago. After explaining that we didn't want to burden anyone with additional cost associated with being in our wedding...they were actually relieved.

 

Fortunately it worked out for all of us!

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Is anyone not doing a bridal party?

 

Don't get me wrong, I have a group of besties, but I just feel like it's unfair to ask them to not only come to my DW, pay for their flights accommodations, etc AND also pay for their dresses, shoes, etc.

 

I'm having a hard time because I mentioned this in passing and my friends kind of got upset that I would not have a bridal party.

 

The man has mixed feelings about it as well, for similar reasons.

It's all about what you invision.. We have decided to have one best man and one maid.. We also decided it to be friends as his family is huge and asking one person and not the other could start drama we don't want.

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It's all about what you invision.. We have decided to have one best man and one maid.. We also decided it to be friends as his family is huge and asking one person and not the other could start drama we don't want.

I wish we had only done one each. But fiancé got super excited and ran out and asked 3 :(

 

 

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