No Wedding Gifts...

[MrsCtoB]

My FI and I have discussed for several months now that we don't want wedding gifts. We understand the commitment that it takes to attend a DW so we feel that our wedding gift is the presence of our guests. We recently shared this idea with some members of my family and it wasn't received well. They feel that its not right to deprive our guests of giving a gift if they want to. I had planned on adding the no gift policy to our invitations but now I am wondering if that is the right thing to do. Has anyone else considered/done this?

[NJBride2014]

We didn't mention anything about gifts on our invites but we did put it on our wedding website. This is what we put "Your presence is present enough for us....We look forward to you joining us in paradise!!!".  I actually went to a destination wedding in June and people still gave envelopes wih money so people will still give a gift if they want and if they do they get an extra big thank you...lol  We actually still gave $100 to the couple even on top of what we paid for our trip.  

Edited August 7, 2014 by NJBride2014

[beckys98]

We are going to say gifts are not expected from people attending our wedding in Jamaica. We'd rather them stay an extra night on the trip! If someone not attending is dying to give us a gift (which we still don't even really want/need) then so be it. We'll graciously accept.

 

But we aren't registering - which we hope will cut down on the gifts - but that isn't going over very well with people!  They think I'm insane or, worse, that it is some referendum on the fact that THEY registered and got gifts. I like to remind them this is about my fiance and me and what we feel comfortable with and nothing else

 

 

My FI and I have discussed for several months now that we don't want wedding gifts. We understand the commitment that it takes to attend a DW so we feel that our wedding gift is the presence of our guests. We recently shared this idea with some members of my family and it wasn't received well. They feel that its not right to deprive our guests of giving a gift if they want to. I had planned on adding the no gift policy to our invitations but now I am wondering if that is the right thing to do. Has anyone else considered/done this?

[kmk2016]

I would never put any reference to a gift (or no gift) on the invite. I would use word of mouth to get the message out there that their gift in attending is gift enough.

[MrsCtoB]

@@beckys98 I totally agree! It just didn't feel right to us and not what we wanted. Like you said, I would so much rather them spend an extra night with us or book a fun excursion they will enjoy but some people get really insulted about it!

 

We are planning on doing a small insert along with the invitation that includes details about the area, activities, itinerary, etc. so if I did include it, it would be there not on the actual invitation itself. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

[beckys98]

Oh yeah, I meant that I'm putting it on the website. But people have been asking about the registry and shower (which I'm not having) so it comes up a lot in conversation. I agree it is better to avoid putting it directly on the invite.

 

I would never put any reference to a gift (or no gift) on the invite. I would use word of mouth to get the message out there that their gift in attending is gift enough.

[calgarybride2015]

We didn't mention it anywhere. When people ask we politely tell them that we are just happy they are attending. We realize people will still give and that's ok. We will also send a big thank you their way.

 

Is it bad I just didn't mention it whatsoever? I guess, like the post above, it will make

It's way via word of mouth.

 

My dad is paying our honeymoon though which is so super nice of him but I'm only his second daughter to marry and the last one was almost 20 years ago. He's probably just over the moon.

 

 

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Edited August 8, 2014 by calgarybride2015

[projecttwayne2015]

We did not mention this on our invites but did mention "your presence is gift enough" on our website. Despite our decision, this was not well received. I would say that this is their choice and if you get a gift, graciously accept

[calgarybride2015]

We did not mention this on our invites but did mention "your presence is gift enough" on our website. Despite our decision, this was not well received. I would say that this is their choice and if you get a gift, graciously accept

Maybe it's just easier not to mention it anywhere?!?

 

When I told people we weren't doing a bridal shower as I felt bad to invite people not invited to the wedding that was also not well received. In the end I think people are super happy for us and want to be apart of it somehow.

 

 

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Edited August 8, 2014 by calgarybride2015

[MrsCtoB]

I think website may be the best venue to do it, liking that idea. Not so fond of word of mouth as we have family and friends scattered all over the US so not so sure how well the word would travel. I feel like seeing it in writing (website, invite, etc.) firms it up for people and emphasizes that that's what WE really want. Will of course, graciously accept any gift that makes its way to Mexico but hopefully everyone will understand.

I guess having generous family and friends is not the worst problem to have @@calgarybride2015 ! That honeymoon deal is awesome.