I was also wondering what people did with this tradition at destination weddings. My parents divorced when I was really young and I don't have a good relationship with my dad (but he will be invited). My step-dad will also be there and I'm actually much closer to him, but with them both there I don't feel like I could choose one as my real "father" and if I did it would be my step-dad. But I've decided I really wanted to avoid a father-daughter dance.
However my FI is really close with his mom, so I was struggling with how to do it where he could do something that would include her, but not force me to choose a dad. I was thinking just me and my hubby have a short dance and stop there, but will that seem like something is obviously missing? Maybe just ask her to dance later in the party like someone mentioned? Any other ideas?
Or I might eliminate the tradition all together and just dance at the party.
And don't get me started on walking down the aisle... a whole other problem. I think I'll have my brother do it though.
I hear you on those issues @tehopper...
My father has been out of my life for 13 years and is NOT invited. So I definitely won't do that dance. However, when it comes to my FI and his mum, I will let him decide what he chooses to do. Perhaps after our first dance, we should have another song that they start but everyone else joins in after? That way, I can dance with his dad, my mum with her fiance, and so on and so forth. By the end everyone should be up and dancing - maybe even mix a song to go right into a party tune?
As for walking down the aisle - I'm having my mum do it