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I need help in deciding what the word should be in annoucing that we are in essence canceling our wedding. We sent save the dates last October and we were suppose to get married next year in Puerto Morelos. We are already married legally and having our non legal ceremony in MX. We are going through some problems and we do not plan on breaking up but I feel like we need to work on ourselves before commit to a big wedding. It first started as a way to punish me for being dishonest. We are currently almost back to normal but my husband no longer wants to have our wedding next year. It might happen a year after that but we don't know for sure.

 

What wording can i write to say on a postcard we plan on sending. I don't want to tell anyone our personal business but I know people will ask me. Help!

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My sister cancelled her wedding for this year after eloping/having a secret ceremony last year.  They just sent out and email saying they were cancelling it due to costs and hopes everyone understands.  They are also already married and said the most important thing is that they are already together and hope to celebrate down the road.

 

At the end of the day you can say as much or as little as you want to your guests.  I don't think my sister told the full story to everyone, but that was her decision.  I say leave it short and simple, no need to get in the details of every reason why.

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I agree with @@Sabes44. I think you can say as much or as little as you want. And I agree that an email would work rather than going to the trouble of printing a postcard. Maybe enlist some help from a family member? You could just send something that says that at this time, you have decided to not go ahead with a wedding ceremony in Mexico and appreciate everyone's support. You don't say how long it has been, but I don't think you'll get as many questions as you might think since you're already legally married. The idea that you're "being punished" must be very upsetting for you so I truly wish you all the best as you try to work things through. I'm thinking that maybe not having the outside pressure of planning a wedding might be just the thing that the two of you need to work out the difficulties and get completely back on track.

 

Good luck and all the best!

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@@Raquelita0715 Sorry to hear that and hope all works for both of you. Remember that things happen for a reason and this could be a way to put the planning aside and work on your relationship; also people should be respectful and discreet regarding your decision.

I would send an email and a postcard (to non computer friendly guests) saying something like "while we are still committed as a couple there are facts that we did not count for and at the moment we would like to apologize for cancelling our wedding" (something like that) a message that would not involve your personal and current situation and leaves it open in a good way. Best to you!!!

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Thank you girls for being so supportive! I really did feel lost on what to say and I just wasn't sure if people were going to be able to be ok with us not wanting to give a whole explanation. This will be a time where I will see who really will be supportive of us either way. I always worry what people will think and I need to realize that is something that is their problem and I need to care less. Little by little I will get there.

 

Thanks you again :) 

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I would simply apologize and just say something generic and let them know when you decide to reschedule you will let them know. Noone needs to know the details, they will understand. Good luck

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I agree with saying that you are cancelling at this time due to cost.  But also add that you plan on rescheduling in the future and you hope everyone will still be able to join.  Good luck :)

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So sorry to hear but it sounds like you still have it to look forward to in the future. I agree with @@Sabes44 as I would totally understand if I got a similar message.

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yeah send an email and keep it short and a blaming cost is a good excuse because people understand that weddings are expensive and with you all ready married it is money that you don't need to spend. Hope it happens one day if that's what you both want x good luck and stay strong x

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