Vegasbride, I have realized that as well. Which is why with everything else I have tried to let go and just expect nothing. Just frusturating when there is only one thing for them to do. Not like we are all early twenties or anything, we are all pushing 30 in a year.
How Hard Is It To Order A Bridesmaid Dress
Posted 29 July 2014 - 12:41 PM
Vegasbride, thank you It means a lot. I feel like I am all alone in this really - my MOH works shift work and can never come to anything, my supportive bridesmaids live far away in different time zones. My MIL is non-existent except when she wants to stir up trouble, she is one of these "Oh I care" and then when you ask her to help, she complains but yet when the big day comes, she will take credit for everything (she loves to lie about how much she helps out her son and I)
I literally have only had my mom and my sister in law who have been supportive. My fiancé is, but his best man is currently living with us as he is working in town and with the extra testosterone in the house, I can't talk to him without his best man injecting his opinion into everything on how we should live our lives (Plus his wife is one of my bridesmaids who has not ordered her dress yet and has given me attitude)
As you can see - I have had a fun go at it. But I've realized that I need to have the attitude that no one cares and just put my big girl panties on and suck it up.
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Posted 29 July 2014 - 12:44 PM
Hahaha it doesn't matter if your "old"... I'm in my mid 40's as are my BMs and they can still be frustrating! Unfortunately age ain't always accompanied by wisdom! Hahah
No no.... lol I corrected and said older.... not old! And I still have you beat by several years!! lol
@lcboyko I wish I could say that! Well sometimes anyway..... I'm pushing @*#$ in a couple of years! sshhhhh A lady never gives away her age!
@VegasBride121314 You are so absolutely right!! Sad as it is to say, yes. But that is so true of many things in life. And I love your little caption - Love over 50 is still love! That is too cute. I didn't think it could be this awesome at my age, but after 13 years together and almost 3 years married, I love him more now than I thought possible. We've been through a lot and the next hurdle is coming up in about 5 or 6 weeks. I can't picture trying to get through it without him. And he's just so darned sexy too!! lol
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Posted 29 July 2014 - 12:53 PM
I have been a bridesmaid twice and MOH once, and I have always done a lot for the bride and to make sure she feels at ease and do everything I can to be supportive, even if I sometimes did not understand or think the marriage was the best choice. My thinking is It's not my life it's hers. And it does get frustrating when you don't get the same thing in return. Even things that should be the fun stuff like shopping for dresses turns into a guilt trip because I'll be moving away... Ugh i'm hormonal too and need to rant!
But bottom line is we shouldn't let others ignorance, or lack of support affect our happiness!!
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Posted 29 July 2014 - 02:14 PM
Sorry you are going through a hard time with your bridesmaids @lcboyko! That is one of the reasons I "selfishly" decided to not have a bridal party. I didn't want the added stress with making sure they were doing what I needed or wanted them to do. I have had a few friends offer to help with stuff, but I am pretty much on my own for the planning part. Don't get me wrong my fiance is involved but he usually just says "whatever you want" which isn't as helpful as he thinks!
I have realized that my wedding isn't important to anyone but me...sad but true!
Love your wedding date
Posted 30 July 2014 - 11:39 AM
I am glad you set the deadline.
I ordered my dresses from David's Bridal mid July and was told they wouldn't be in until November.
Hopefully they order asap and they come in the 7 weeks!! November is coming quick!
And them being married, they should know better I agree!!
with that said, going in another direction -- doesn't it blow your mind that married people still don't feel the need to RSVP to weddings?
We have more than 1 couple who we assume aren't coming as they didn't RSVP but have been in our shoes before. Blows my mind!
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Posted 30 July 2014 - 11:49 PM
Posted 31 July 2014 - 06:31 AM
Thanks ladies for the advice.. I had a major b*tch fest to my MOH about all of this and I am feeling better, combined with venting to you guys. I gave the rest of the bridesmaids timelines, so crossing my fingers they adhere to them - One of them apologized and is ordering it in the next few weeks, the other two have ignored me, so we will see what happens with that. I am going to see the two that ignored me at our shower/stag my parents are hosting here in a few weeks, so we will see what they say or how their attitude is. I'm not going to be a cow however if they are giving me attitude then, I am going to politely tell them how much stress they are causing me.
Calgarybride, I agree. We didn't even receive replies from half of the people we invited - I know they are the older crowd and we didn't expect them to make it but still, please RSVP. even with some of the younger people - I just don't get it. Most of these people have been married before, like c'mon you know how it is tracking down RSVP's! Oh well. Our RSVP deadline is coming this Monday, even though we have our final numbers in, I will be surprised If people save it till the last minute!
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