Wow! I wasn't expecting so much support! For a while I thought maybe I was being too selfish with the whole D/W thing, but you all changed that. I appreciate all your thoughts & they really help put everything into perspective.. Thank you all so so much!!! Wish I could hug you all!!!! Thank you @Maggietron, @kmk2016, @Lilian84, @peachykeen159, @calgarybride2015, @AllieH, @TAkathy, @Sarahop81, @shevette925, @Mandiesue!! Such a wonderful group of ladies you all are!
I just hope we're not too late on invites so that those wanting to come have enough time to save up & ask off work(if needed). Is 7-8 months typically too short of a notice?
And to be honest.. I still carry this guilt on me if something were to happen to someone there, especially after family members have brought it up.... I think I just need to pray very hard everything turns out well & nothing negative occurs.
AllieH, Calgary, Sarahup81, MandieSue: It's comforting to hear your experiences as you four have gone/are going through this same thing, however I am very sorry & not happy to hear that ya'll had to deal with this same type of thing as I know how heartbreaking & what a burden you can feel from it all. I'm glad you all stood for what you & your fiance ultimately wanted. I am very sorry for those that could not make it to your weddings... But it's true, those that want & can be there, will be there. And it makes me feel sooo *much* better that no one regrets their decision. Fiance and I really need to sit down & decide if we would be okay with some of our family members not being able to make it. I feel like most of them would come through (some more so than others.. and many out of “obligation”), but there's no guarantee so we need to face the fact it could happen. I have done all I can for these family members, so if they can't do this for us, then it is what it is. I've tried explaining to our family that we would never take them somewhere we felt was unsafe & put them in that predicament, but they are still kind of stuck in their ways.
AllieH-I'm so glad your parents decided to make the trip & had the best time. That's unfortunate about your sister, but yes it is her loss! And the last post you sent me kind of sealed the deal on the whole D/W . Thank you for that! I'm also glad to hear you haven't had a single problem in the last 3 times you've visited. Thank you so much for your help & congrats on your marriage!!!
Sarahup81- You are completely right about Chicago! Ironic right? I get where you’re coming from as we live just a few short hours from the border & our families have the mindset that the whole country is probably unsafe due to what goes on. I keep explaining we're flying *over* the border away from this area, but they just keep listening to everything negative they read or hear. That's also a great point about it being more about having a vacation together, rather than just a wedding. I've tried to explain this, but I think we need to bring it up more in our conversations. Some people try not to see it as a “vacation” because it’s not where they would choose, but I wouldn’t have chosen this destination if I felt everyone wouldn’t enjoy it. I just KNOW they would have at least somewhat of a good time once there. Great points again, Thank you!! And congrats & best wishes for your wedding day! Let me know how it goes!
MandieSue- "We both sat down oneday and discussed if would still be happy if we were the only 2 people standing on the beach... We said "YES". Everyone else is a bonus to the day." <~ Such a great point & so happy you two came to that conclusion! Melts my heart . I hear Punta Cana is stunning! Let us know how it is! All the best to both of you & thank you for your kind words!
Calgarybride- I'm so glad your dad came around!!! That's kind of how it was with both our parents, but they know they can't stop us, so they would rather be there, then not be present thankfully. I’m positive our sister & her family would come to Vegas, as they go all the time. And I used to be able to picture us getting married there, but for some reason I can’t anymore. Also, if we do it in the US, it means we have to invite a lot more people, which of course means the cost will go up substantially & it’s already more expensive there to begin with. We also want to keep our wedding smaller & more intimate with only those close to us there. You are so right about every country being unsafe.. Every country has it’s good & bad areas, as well as people. Some worse than others, but there’s a chance of something happening anywhere you go, or even don’t go for that matter! I think you just have to use your best judgment as much as possible. I wish I was a superhero that could predict things, but I’m not! I tried explaining about the different areas of Mexico to our families..And luckily I know it’s gotten through to them just a little. My fiancé also came across some chart that stated how US was more dangerous than Mexico in certain aspects. Thank you again for all your help. Best of luck with your wedding & congrats !!
XOXO to you all! Can't thank you enough!!!
At the beginning of our engagement, I told myself I wouldn't be one of those brides who stresses out & makes things complicated.. But now look at me! Yikes. lol.