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Number Of People On Guest List Vs Actual Attendees. Experiences...

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HI ladies!

 

So I am in the very beginning stages of my wedding planning. I am working on my guest list and was wondering if you ladies that have recently had a destination wedding or are close to your wedding date, could tell me how many people you invited and how many people are actually attending. I am trying to get an idea of how many people average going to destination weddings. Your suggestions appreciated.

 

Your experience in getting your guests to your destination? Hassle, Smooth planning, etc?

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I believe I have read on here somewhere that it is about 30% that will attend? But like you, I am in the beginning stages so I could be wrong.

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I invited 100 people and I will have 40 coming to the wedding almost half.  I'm happy with the amount of people.  

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From all I have heard of most fall between 30-40, but I have seen as much as 60.

 

We invited approx. 60 people (started at 54, but we added on), and 42 are coming as of the deposit deadline.  I know that can change either direction.

 

I think 42 is awesome, I would never have dreamed it in a million years.

 

Just be prepared that some people who you are SURE will go, will not.  And some people who you invite more as a technicality (LOL!!), will come.

 

EDIT: ok that came out wrong, and may not have sounded nice, but you get my drift :)

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I was told 30% is average but there are so many variables! How much time you are giving your guests to save... Are your guests typically travellers or will this wedding be a first trip of the type for many? What time of year is it? Are their kids invited or will they be required to get child care? How far do they have to travel? And most of all... Price! Is the price for your resort/flight something that most of your guests can afford without too much financial strain?

 

Some couples want an intimate small group and thus their choice for a DW, so inviting 10-12 people who they know will be there- and that's it- would mean they likely will get 100% responses (but even these scenarios often lose 1 or 2). Others want to celebrate with friends and family and make it a week long celebration and invite 100+ knowing realistically half or less may actually come.

 

Biggest advise is don't take the "nos" personally (or the ones who just avoid you and don't say anything!!) ... They WILL happen and you WILL be hurt- but focus more on the people who decide to share in your special day. Whether that's 4 people or 100... The ones who want to be there for you will- and you just can't focus on the ones that don't. Also- just because someone says "oh we will be there!"... Or even RSVPs yes- don't assume anything. Until they actually put down deposits and pay for their trip- sadly it may only be talk.

 

Have fun planning! It's worth all the stress (that's what I'm telling myself!)

 

 

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We invited 114 people and 52 are coming, so about 50% :)

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We invited 86 and 30 are coming...funny it's the 30 I knew would and the other invites I kinda felt wouldn't come and aren't. .but now they can't say they weren't invited...

also I agree with kmk2016 don't let who doesn't come bother you..thats the choice they made...even if they make you feel guilty. ...do what you want not anyone else ;)

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We invited 80 people and have 20 confirmed coming with us. However on our guest list were a lot of seniors, and a lot of people with kids, so we're really happy to even have 20

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